Author: Leah Samara

You Can’t Be Authentic While Working Hard AGAINST The Toxic Religious & Masculine Conditioning Your Grew Up With

Some of you are working so hard AGAINST the toxic religious & masculine conditioning you grew up with around AUTHORITY that it’s limiting your potential now

.. it’s directly impacting your ability to show up now, as a female leader in HEALTHY authority & voice in your mission.

I GET IT. I grew up with it. I married it. I bound myself to communities with it.

(And then I divorced it, untangled myself from it, deconditioned it and now I work with others to do the same)

We always overcompensate for any area of trauma and conditioning we haven’t released/rewired.

It’s hard to show up powerfully in an area you felt powerless.

It’s hard to show up authentically in an area you hated.

It’s hard not to swing to the opposite end of the pendulum when you haven’t fully untangled, deconditioned & rewired it.

If you grew up in controlling religious environments or controlling family, or particularly narcissistic/controlling father..

And you are an entrepreneurial woman now who is ready for her unapologetic era (but in a healthy way that supports her wellbeing and authentic honest faith) this post is for you.

I see SO MUCH MORE for you than to still be bound (for whenever we are against our past, we are still bound by it)

I see your authentic self.. under the layers of fighting against. Under the layers of your inner Good Christian Girl who is still there (otherwise you wouldn’t need to fight so hard against it)..

And I can lead you to freedom on the other side –

Free to be you

Free to use your voice

Free to be your weird, quirky self

Free to create the highest level of impact you were born for

This is a part of the work – seeing that working so hard against it is also limiting you, desiring freedom and doing the deep work to cut the chains so that the generations that come behind you are also liberated to truth and authenticity vs living in reaction.

This is the “work” that we do in my world (that I’ve been told is FUN!).

Click here to join my next free workshop to untangle and embrace your freedom!

LS x

“I’m Going To Be The Very Thing You Didn’t Want Me To Be” Is Not Being Unapologetically YOU.

“I’m going to be the very thing you didn’t want me to be” is not being unapologetically you, it’s a trauma response.

(Eg. You grew up with religious parents who encouraged Good Christian Girl conditioning)

And now you understandably push back on all things religious Christianity.. even if a part of you feels disconnected and maybe even kind of misses aspects

The way you push back (fight) against who they tried to mould you into (eg. The Good Christian Girl Archetype) determines how much of your true self you actually get to claim back so you are free to be you.

The truly empowered woman doesn’t try to fit or try not to fit a label.

She just, is.

I can guide you into this freedom when you are finally ready to meet the REAL her.

Claim your free seat at my next workshop to untangle from it here.

Always seeing you in your magic,

LS x

God Didn’t Design You To Be A ‘Good Christian Girl’.

God never desired you to be a facade, a shell of yourself, or a Good Christian Girl who could only comply, dim herself and her voice down and fit the mould of who “they” desired her to be.

For the female entrepreneur; this facet of religious upbringing – the Good Christian Girl facade that you may have been unintentionally conditioned to be – is religious trauma.

This is probably why you feel burnt out

Why being your authentic self in your life and business feels “wrong”

Why you dim your sparkle down when you know you are born to shine bright

Why you silence your voice sometimes (and kick yourself later for it)

And why it may feel hard to be honest with God, having an honest faith without the perfectionism and trying to keep a mask in place.

I am not going to minimise it, because it’s incredibly toxic.

But if you are a high-achieving action-taking business-owner type, you need to reclaim your FOCUS..

.. we need to decondition and rewire this so that you are no longer impacted by something in the past

so you no longer burn yourself out trying to be a Good Christian Girl (subconsciously) – being nice to everyone
so you no longer make misaligned decisions
so you no longer feel boxed-in to a certain niche / offer / message
so you no longer pretzel yourself to fit the approval and expectations of others
so you are focused, lit up and in your own lane loving life!
so you are FREE TO BE YOU, with God.

You are not far away from your authentic self. She is already within you! She is already slamming on the brakes and trying to spin you in a new direction..

The real question is – are you finally ready to get her the CLARITY and internal shifts she needs to have her mind blown and feel LIT UP again?!

The deep is calling you! Let’s gooooo

LS x

A Must-Read If You Learned God Through The Lens Of Wounded Men.

When we have grown up learning God through the lens of wounded men, we have to be careful that we don’t relearn God through the lens of wounded women.

The lens of wounded women is the most attractive lens to us after we have had our spiritual awakening/faith crisis.

It’s the one most relatable.

And the one most poisonous.

Because while she sells freedom, yet she simply traps us into another paradigm – one where we block our own freedom, restoration and soul-nourishing connection to God.

And where we continue to pass on our own wounds.

Burnt Out But Can’t Stop Proving Yourself? This Is For You.

If you feel burnt-out but can’t stop proving and pushing (even though you are financially secure); you need to focus on creating deep internal security around your worth.

The COMPULSION to prove and push is there to stop you feeling anxious. It’s not the problem, it’s a defence mechanism (why sabbaticals, breaks and holidays are only temporarily helpful).

The anxiety is there to tell you that you must take action or a deep need isn’t going to be met. Again, the anxiety is NOT the problem.. and is why the extra wine at night, the doom scrolling, the constantly trying to “regulate” yourself isn’t working long-term..

And the deep need. Well, she is there to remind you that you’re human, and that your needs matter if you are going to do work that lights you up and unleashes soul-aligned impact from overflow instead of burnout and anxiety.

The deep need of self-worth BEFORE you ACHIEVE, PERFORM or DO anything is one that we can only go so long without burning out / making ourselves loco.

So many will have you focused on calming measures, escape measures, and behavioural change that doesn’t actually do much.

In my world, we look beneath the layers that others don’t to access the freedom many won’t.

Because we know that when we finally address the ROOTS of what is going on in your internal system, that it releases the anxiety and compulsions so you can shine brightly in the world as YOU (and not some overworking maniac).

Click here to join my latest free workshop!

Love you,

LS x

This Is The Kind Of Community That Christian & Former Christian Women Need To Be More Authentic

Often for decades, former ‘Good Christian Girls’ have been surrounded by women absorbing the same conditioning and teachings as them:

that their needs and desire don’t matter
that their value is in constantly serving others
that they need to receive the approval of the community
that they should appear to be compliant, appeasing and nice to everyone
that it’s mean/unkind to have boundaries
that it’s wrong to shine bright or draw any attention to yourself
.. and so much more.

This creates whole communities of women who believe their conditioning and misaligned behaviour is normal.

Women who –

have conditioned themselves to stuff down what they really think or feel
silently struggle with burnout and anxiety.
even normalise things like staying in the confines of a man-made idealised persona like the ‘Good Christian Girl’ – being someone you’re not just to feel belonging and acceptance.

Well, not in my world!

In my world we are honest and authentic

We use our voices

Challenge thinking without ego

We dig deeper into who we really are

We own our wants and needs

We shine bright, unapologetically!

We love on each other

We listen without judgement

We own our boundaries

We have fun!!!!

We explode our ceilings.

We cheer each other on.

And we do it together.

This can be you and me on a call, workshopping your next big aligned business move TOMORROW.

But I mean, keep dimming yourself down if you want 😉

Click here to join my next free workshop to break FREE from the toxicity of the ‘Good Christian Girl’ Archetype, to instead be unapologetically and authentically YOU – co-creating wild impact with God.

LS x

Burnout Doesn’t Happen Because Of How Many Hours You Work. Here’s The Truth That Will Set You Free.

Burnout doesn’t happen because of how many hours you work; it happens because of the energy you use to achieve those hours.

And it’s not as simple as “take more breaks” or “I just need to rest more”.

You’re smart enough to know that this doesn’t work for you, because when you finally DO rest.. you struggle to relax, you feel anxious, can’t switch off and resort to more escape mechanisms to be able to switch off.

There is NO judgement from me, I’m just here for those that are 100% done with these patterns and are ready to step out of the dysfunction for good so that you can make your soul-aligned impact from being lit-up and authentic rather than being exhausted and frustrated.

This is also why sabbaticals + holidays + onboarding more staff don’t work long-term for those with patterns of burnout.

Proving Energy

Pushing Energy

Perfectionism Energy

People pleasing Energy

Performing Energy

Pretzeling Energy

= ALL MISALIGNED to who you are, all exhausting to operate in continuously. These are the things you must face to break the pattern.

When we are in these energies, it’s because we have not taken God-given sovereignty over something in our internal world.

In my world we decondition, we peel back the layers, we get to the ROOTS so that there is no longer a DRIVE in us to operate in these energies.

Click here to join my next workshop for former “Good Christian Girls” who are ready to break FREE from pattern of burnout, people-pleasing, perfection.. to instead be unapologetically authentic and shine bright in their unique magic in the world for their highest impact and potential.

LS x

Frustrated Because You’re Not Tapping Into Your Highest Potential As A Female Entrepreneur or Leader?

If you’re frustrated because you’re not tapping into your fullest potential – let me first tell you this:

You’re wildly capable; you just need CLARITY!

Clarity on why exactly you dim yourself down when you’re sparkly and smart as heck and know you were born to SHINE BRIGHT

Clarity on where the misaligned feeling is coming from

Clarity on what needs to shift in order for you to get scaling again

Clarity on exactly what the true problem is (frustrated and spinning your wheels is NOT the problem)

Clarity on the exact root cause of the problem

Clarity on exactly how to address and remove the root cause

Clarity on who you are and what your unique genius is that you offer the world

Clarity on your niche and carving out your little slice of it

Clarity so you can realign your business to her Zone of Genius, do work that lights you up!

Clarity so you can scale your business in alignment with who you are and what you stand for and experience soul-aligned success

This CLARITY is EXACTLY why I developed the one-off 1:1 Catalyst Consultation. It is a full 1:1 client consultation to get you that next nugget of clarity you need to stop spinning your wheels and start being unapologetically YOU – creating your unique form of significant impact across the globe.

Click here to schedule yours now.

If you are a female leader or entrepreneur who wants to reach her highest potential,

LS x

Why A Sabbatical Won’t Cure Your Burnout

Taking a sabbatical/holiday when you’re in patterns of burnout is like the woman who takes a break from dating without healing the roots of her relational issues. It’s just escapism & Groundhog Day.

The rise of the sabbatical highlights our deep need for transformative rest to be a regular, necessary part of our success strategies.

When deep nourishing rest isn’t a part of your success strategy; sabbaticals & holidays become part of your coping strategy.

You CAN create a life that nourishes you, but to do this you need to address the real problem: to fully embrace your worthiness without performance and achievement.

This is the deep work we do in my world, so you can rest and relax, recharging for amazing impact, guilt-free.

There is NO shame in it! I’ve taken serious breaks over and over again because I hadn’t gotten to the roots of what was really going on.

I was in a massive pattern of burnout.

I would rest/take a big break

Finally get the energy or inspo to get going again

Get going

Then fall back into the same patterns with the same old results.

It was so frustrating!

But there was nothing wrong with me! The problem was that I hadn’t addressed the roots of some of the ways I had been conditioned to function.

Once I did this I was free to be lit up, excited, chasing goals from the right energy, rest and relax.. and holidays become something that is a big gift again! Not a coping strategy to escape from life

The Pattern of Burnout is a BIG symptom of your inner Good Christian Girl still being activated (even if you’ve left church/religious Christianity). In my next free workshop, I walk you through this pattern and how to untangle from it to be free to be YOU. Click here to join us!

LS x

PS. Sabbatical years weren’t designed for people, they were designed for the LAND. Sabbath was designed for people.

God does not have a fragile ego.

God does not have a fragile ego. He can handle your brilliance, your magic, your SPARKLE

After all, He made you so. We must be careful not to project the insecurities of men we have experienced – fathers, partners, religious men – onto God.

It took me many internal shifts to unlearn the ego that I had projected onto God. He has none. He isn’t insecure, he isn’t offended by your brightness. He doesn’t need you to dull down your femininity so he doesn’t feel threatened.

Unlearning this means I can see him and experience him as he is, not as who I project him to be based on passed experiences.

Click here to join my next free workshop.

Love you

LS x