Burnt Out But Can’t Stop Proving Yourself? This Is For You.

 If you feel burnt-out but can’t stop proving and pushing (even though you are financially secure); you need to focus on creating deep internal security around your worth.

The COMPULSION to prove and push is there to stop you feeling anxious. It’s not the problem, it’s a defence mechanism (why sabbaticals, breaks and holidays are only temporarily helpful).

The anxiety is there to tell you that you must take action or a deep need isn’t going to be met. Again, the anxiety is NOT the problem.. and is why the extra wine at night, the doom scrolling, the constantly trying to “regulate” yourself isn’t working long-term..

And the deep need. Well, she is there to remind you that you’re human, and that your needs matter if you are going to do work that lights you up and unleashes soul-aligned impact from overflow instead of burnout and anxiety.

The deep need of self-worth BEFORE you ACHIEVE, PERFORM or DO anything is one that we can only go so long without burning out / making ourselves loco.

So many will have you focused on calming measures, escape measures, and behavioural change that doesn’t actually do much.

In my world, we look beneath the layers that others don’t to access the freedom many won’t.

Because we know that when we finally address the ROOTS of what is going on in your internal system, that it releases the anxiety and compulsions so you can shine brightly in the world as YOU (and not some overworking maniac).

Click here to join my latest free workshop!

Love you,

LS x

This Is The Kind Of Community That Christian & Former Christian Women Need To Be More Authentic

Often for decades, former ‘Good Christian Girls’ have been surrounded by women absorbing the same conditioning and teachings as them:

  • that their needs and desire don’t matter
  • that their value is in constantly serving others
  • that they need to receive the approval of the community
  • that they should appear to be compliant, appeasing and nice to everyone
  • that it’s mean/unkind to have boundaries
  • that it’s wrong to shine bright or draw any attention to yourself
  • .. and so much more.

This creates whole communities of women who believe their conditioning and misaligned behaviour is normal. 🚩

Women who –

  • have conditioned themselves to stuff down what they really think or feel
  • silently struggle with burnout and anxiety.
  • even normalise things like staying in the confines of a man-made idealised persona like the ‘Good Christian Girl’ – being someone you’re not just to feel belonging and acceptance.

Well, not in my world!

In my world we are honest and authentic

We use our voices

Challenge thinking without ego

We dig deeper into who we really are

We own our wants and needs

We shine bright, unapologetically!

We love on each other

We listen without judgement

We own our boundaries

We have fun!!!!

We explode our ceilings.

We cheer each other on.

And we do it together.

This can be you and me on a call, workshopping your next big aligned business move TOMORROW.

But I mean, keep dimming yourself down if you want 😉

Click here to join my next free workshop to break FREE from the toxicity of the ‘Good Christian Girl’ Archetype, to instead be unapologetically and authentically YOU – co-creating wild impact with God.

LS x

Burnout Doesn’t Happen Because Of How Many Hours You Work. Here’s The Truth That Will Set You Free.

Burnout doesn’t happen because of how many hours you work; it happens because of the energy you use to achieve those hours.

And it’s not as simple as “take more breaks” or “I just need to rest more”.

You’re smart enough to know that this doesn’t work for you, because when you finally DO rest.. you struggle to relax, you feel anxious, can’t switch off and resort to more escape mechanisms to be able to switch off.

There is NO judgement from me, I’m just here for those that are 100% done with these patterns and are ready to step out of the dysfunction for good so that you can make your soul-aligned impact from being lit-up and authentic rather than being exhausted and frustrated.

This is also why sabbaticals + holidays + onboarding more staff don’t work long-term for those with patterns of burnout.

Proving Energy

Pushing Energy

Perfectionism Energy

People pleasing Energy

Performing Energy

Pretzeling Energy

= ALL MISALIGNED to who you are, all exhausting to operate in continuously. These are the things you must face to break the pattern.

When we are in these energies, it’s because we have not taken God-given sovereignty over something in our internal world.

In my world we decondition, we peel back the layers, we get to the ROOTS so that there is no longer a DRIVE in us to operate in these energies.

Click here to join my next workshop for former “Good Christian Girls” who are ready to break FREE from pattern of burnout, people-pleasing, perfection.. to instead be unapologetically authentic and shine bright in their unique magic in the world for their highest impact and potential.

LS x

Frustrated Because You’re Not Tapping Into Your Highest Potential As A Female Entrepreneur or Leader?

If you’re frustrated because you’re not tapping into your fullest potential – let me first tell you this:

You’re wildly capable; you just need CLARITY!

Clarity on why exactly you dim yourself down when you’re sparkly and smart as heck and know you were born to SHINE BRIGHT

Clarity on where the misaligned feeling is coming from

Clarity on what needs to shift in order for you to get scaling again

Clarity on exactly what the true problem is (frustrated and spinning your wheels is NOT the problem)

Clarity on the exact root cause of the problem

Clarity on exactly how to address and remove the root cause

Clarity on who you are and what your unique genius is that you offer the world

Clarity on your niche and carving out your little slice of it

Clarity so you can realign your business to her Zone of Genius, do work that lights you up!

Clarity so you can scale your business in alignment with who you are and what you stand for and experience soul-aligned success

This CLARITY is EXACTLY why I developed the one-off 1:1 Catalyst Consultation. It is a full 1:1 client consultation to get you that next nugget of clarity you need to stop spinning your wheels and start being unapologetically YOU – creating your unique form of significant impact across the globe.

Click here to schedule yours now.

If you are a female leader or entrepreneur who wants to reach her highest potential,

LS x

Why A Sabbatical Won’t Cure Your Burnout

Taking a sabbatical/holiday when you’re in patterns of burnout is like the woman who takes a break from dating without healing the roots of her relational issues. It’s just escapism & Groundhog Day.

The rise of the sabbatical highlights our deep need for transformative rest to be a regular, necessary part of our success strategies.

When deep nourishing rest isn’t a part of your success strategy; sabbaticals & holidays become part of your coping strategy.

You CAN create a life that nourishes you, but to do this you need to address the real problem: to fully embrace your worthiness without performance and achievement.

This is the deep work we do in my world, so you can rest and relax, recharging for amazing impact, guilt-free.

There is NO shame in it! I’ve taken serious breaks over and over again because I hadn’t gotten to the roots of what was really going on.

I was in a massive pattern of burnout.

I would rest/take a big break

Finally get the energy or inspo to get going again

Get going

Then fall back into the same patterns with the same old results.

It was so frustrating!

But there was nothing wrong with me! The problem was that I hadn’t addressed the roots of some of the ways I had been conditioned to function.

Once I did this I was free to be lit up, excited, chasing goals from the right energy, rest and relax.. and holidays become something that is a big gift again! Not a coping strategy to escape from life

The Pattern of Burnout is a BIG symptom of your inner Good Christian Girl still being activated (even if you’ve left church/religious Christianity). In my next free workshop, I walk you through this pattern and how to untangle from it to be free to be YOU. Click here to join us!

LS x

PS. Sabbatical years weren’t designed for people, they were designed for the LAND. Sabbath was designed for people.

God does not have a fragile ego.

God does not have a fragile ego. He can handle your brilliance, your magic, your SPARKLE ✨

After all, He made you so. We must be careful not to project the insecurities of men we have experienced – fathers, partners, religious men – onto God.

It took me many internal shifts to unlearn the ego that I had projected onto God. He has none. He isn’t insecure, he isn’t offended by your brightness. He doesn’t need you to dull down your femininity so he doesn’t feel threatened.

Unlearning this means I can see him and experience him as he is, not as who I project him to be based on passed experiences.

Click here to join my next free workshop.

Love you

LS x

What Is Wrong With Being A Good Christian Girl?

I’ve been asked this alot in comments on my posts on social media, and I understand the mindset.

It’s coming from people who are where I used to be. I grew up in conservative “religious” Christianity, I had absorbed much of the teaching from a young age in my family and church environments, and then in subsequent church environments.

What I didn’t realise was that some of what I had absorbed was actually man-made teaching, and not from the God who sees women, loves women and values women.

I found it challenging to set boundaries, own and use my God-given voice, anchor in my worth; and was also wrestling with alot of burnout, anxiety, dimming myself down, people-pleasing, workaholism, perfectionism (I could go on..).

And when I began to dig deep into healing all of these with God, I uncovered that I had swallowed the poison of this archetype without realising it was toxic for me, and for the women around me. I discovered it was not only anti-biblical, it was actually anti-God.

With that being said – let’s dive a little deeper.

What Is The Good Christian Girl Archetype™, & What Is Wrong With Being A Good Christian Girl?

The Good Christian Girl Archetype™ is a trauma response to being taught that God values girls/women only when they conform to a narrow, man-made mould. Conditioned to be quiet, compliant, and self-sacrificing, she learns to suppress her voice and needs to avoid being seen as selfish or rebellious.

Her value becomes tied to serving others, people-pleasing & meeting impossible standards of perfection, leaving no room for her imperfection, needs, desires or her as a person.

As a result, grown women are infantalised, twisting themselves into disempowered versions of who God made them to be, stripped of God-given worth & protective mechanisms like their voice and intuition, landing them into toxic and sometimes dangerous situations.

As an adult she craves authenticity and the courage to lead her life unapologetically, but her conditioning keeps her in a cycle of self-abandonment and a fear that stepping into her full self would make her unworthy of love or acceptance.

If you’re reading this thinking – holy Moses this is actually really relatable, pin-points the things I’ve wrestled or am wrestling with, and I know it’s placing a ceiling on my full God-given potential that I am born to expand in this lifetime.. I have an invitation for you –

To untangle from The Good Christian Girl Archetype™ so you can be unapologetically and authentically YOU in your life, faith or business, join my next free workshop on how to untangle from her here.

LS x

Protecting Yourself From The Toxicity In Your Religious Past

< Go from 0-1000mph instead of expressing hurt, anger, frustration or disappointment in healthy ways, you explode (then feel freaking guilty afterwards)?

< Frustrated by your religious up-bringing and the limitations it brings?

< Feel misunderstood often, and like your voice doesn’t carry much authority (unless you’re angry or exploding)?

< Trying hard NOT to be the Good Christian Girl you were brought up to be? 

I see you, there’s nothing wrong with you – it’s likely you’re unknowingly caught in the Religious Rebel Archetype™.

The Religious Rebel Archetype™ is an understandable reaction to Good Christian Girl conditioning. 

It’s understandable because GCG conditioning basically teaches girls to be powerless, to rely on men to protect them, to abandon themselves, and to silence their voices and intuition.

Some of these are our most powerful God-given protectors given as gifts to women – especially our voices and intuition!

And I’m sure, like me, you ended up in toxic, abusive, dangerous or unhealthy situations as a result. So you had to protect yourself..

Pushing back against all things related to your religious up-bringing..

But the thing is, the way that we protect ourselves is not always a long-term healthy solution for us to live in peace, have great relationships with ourselves and others and to receive our desires..

Sometimes our protective mechanisms block the very things we say we want, burning us out, leaving us feeling guilty with a loud inner critic that gives us a load of anxiety.

I bring you good news!  Knowing that the Religious Rebel Archetype™ is actually a REACTION to the Good Christian Girl Archetype is the key here!

The problem isn’t your desire to push back against something toxic – no no no – the problem is the original Good Christian Girl conditioning.  She’s still active and you haven’t properly untangled from her as an identity deep within your subconscious.

And I bring you better news! I’m going to show you ALL THE THING in my next free workshop to untangle it all & be unapologetically YOU here.

LS x

There Are Only 2 Things A Girl/Woman Can Be In Many Conservative Christian Spheres (Why You Dim Yourself Down):

In many conservative religious circles, there are only 2 things a woman can be (why you dim yourself & your voice down):

In my deep observation, my own spiritual awakening and evolution journey and working with high achieving clients, I accidentally uncovered a dichotomy (two opposing ideas) in many religious circles.

And it’s something that, until this moment, I bet you actually deep down KNEW existed, but had struggled to put your finger on, or put words to. It’s this:

In most religious Christian circles, girls and women can only be ONE of two things – 

The Good Christian Girl / Good Christian Woman

OR

The Rebellious Woman / Harlot / Strong Independent Career Woman

Have you noticed this?

If you don’t fit the mold, toe the line, dim down your voice and opinions.. if you don’t PERFECTLY fit into the archetype of the Good Christian Girl, you are IMMEDIATELY labelled as the other.

And so develops this unnameable subconscious fear with deep (often unconscious) dialogue going a little something like this:

“I don’t want people to think I’m rebellious, or selfish, or immoral, or too independent.. so I’ll dim myself down”

The thing is, as women when we get to our 30s, 40s and beyond we get to a point where we are severely burnt out and literally CANNOT operate in this dichotomy – this pattern of self-abandonment and fear any longer.. 

But it’s like – how do we untangle from it all to be unapologetically ourselves, without becoming someone we’re not, but also not becoming something we fear (like being labelled rebellious)?

While ever we don’t feel safe to just BE, the full expression of authenticity cannot exist.

Join my next free workshop to begin untangling it all & be unapologetically YOU! 

Always seeing the magic in you,
LS x

How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Exploding In Anger

I used to go from 0 (Nice Christian Girl/Good Girl—compliant and quiet) to 1000 mph (psycho angry Leah) before exploding. Now I stand up for myself instead.. you can too.

I would bottle it up for a longgg time before the inevitable eruption happened because I literally couldn’t hold it in any longer.

Instead of using my voice, I would bite my tongue, be nice, take it and take it, try to be forgiving, try to show grace, try to be like Jesus, pray about it, try to reframe how I thought about it, avoid situations and people that would trigger it…

All of which required a lot of maintenance and energy. All of which actually ENABLED others to treat me however they liked (but that’s probably a post for another day).

The problem was this:
I didn’t know HOW to use my voice appropriately, and because I didn’t know how, when I was triggered I would explode—which led to me not trusting my voice fully.

The problem was NOT the fact that I would explode, or that I didn’t trust my voice…

It was that I had never been shown how to properly use my voice to stand up for myself, voice my opinions, and stand for what really mattered to me in a healthy, balanced, regulated way (without becoming someone I wasn’t, or ruining all the relationships around me); AND I had received conditioning I that told me that being a nice, silent, Good Christian Girl was what God (and men) wanted from me.

You don’t need another self-help book or a surface-level communication workshop. 

You don’t need more guilt-laden advice to “be like Jesus” while ignoring the power and authority He’s given you.

Without appropriate adult female models, we are left in our protective mechanisms, sometimes floundering, trying to work it out ourselves.

You can feel when it’s not working. You try harder, bottle it up longer, and hope the next time will be different… but it’s not.

This cycle of silence, eruption, and guilt takes a toll. It robs you of your peace, your confidence, and the ability to trust yourself. It impacts your relationships, your work, and even your faith.

But it doesn’t have to stay this way.

You don’t need to keep carrying this weight. What you need is to unlearn the toxic beliefs that keep you silent and reclaim your voice in a way that feels powerful, regulated, and authentic.

That’s exactly what we do in my Free To Be You Mastermind.

This isn’t just about learning to “speak up.” It’s about uncovering the version of you that’s silenced herself for far too long—the bold, unapologetic, aligned woman you were always meant to be.

Imagine using your voice with clarity and conviction, standing firm for what matters most to you, and showing up powerfully (and REGULATED) in communication in your relationships and work without fear or guilt.

You can learn to trust your voice, even if you never have before. You can use your voice to stand for what matters most without burning bridges—or yourself out.

Join my next free workshop to take your first step: Workshop Link.

Or PM me to claim your seat in the Free To Be You Mastermind—only a few positions left this year.

Always seeing the magic in you,
LS x