Author: Leah Samara

Unmatched Trauma Healing Method That Is Better Than Breathwork Or Meditation.

You don’t need more meditation or breathwork to find your calm; you need to reclaim sovereignty over the part of you that is dysregulated b/c she seeks others to mirror her worth, significance & greatness.

The need to constantly calm and seek out nervous system regulation is only there because your system is constantly being triggered into dysregulated states.

Yes you may be in sympathetic and in need of nervous system regulation – but no you don’t need to WORK HARD to get there.

You need to find your hidden switch (trigger) and turn it off (by claiming your God-given sovereignty and worth over it) so the intelligent design of your physiology does the work for you.

This is where your underlying ‘Good Christian Girl Identity’ comes in..

Because you’re experiencing the anxiety, the burnout and dimming yourself down because deep down you don’t feel free to be you.

You have to wear the mask and perform and be perfect and please everyone because of religious and familial conditioning that says this is how you BECOME ENOUGH, this is how you prove you are WORTHY.

You seek out OTHERS to mirror back to you how worthy, significant or great you are because effectively you’re asking “Am I doing it? Being perfect? Is my mask in place?”..

And people will always gladly mirror it back to you because most people have issues with people pleasing!!! (Which keeps you in slavery to your conditioning, not freedom).

So EVEN IF you’re outside of this conditioning now, you now abandon yourself automatically because the conditioning is embedded in your subconscious mind – so working hard against it doesn’t work.

>> This is why holidays/sabbaticals, meditation, burn your business down, mindset coaching, leadership seminars, breath work, self help books and affirmations will only get you so far.

They’re temporary solutions to a root that is deeper than they can reach.

You need Subconscious Sovereignty – a trauma-informed process that by-passes the surface-level tactics you’ve invested in before to target your unique hidden spiritual and psychological conditioning deeply at the roots and connects you to your Authentic Self so you are free to be fully yourself in life, faith and business.

It gently peels back the layers of who you think you need to be and reconnects you to who you actually are.

The Subconscious Sovereignty™ Framework gives you the tools you need to:

Break the cycle of burnout and self-abandonment for good.
Step into the unapologetic, bold leader you were created to be.
Build a life and business that feels as authentic as breathing.
Experience God’s love and gentle guidance in a way that fuels your courage and creativity. (Even if you currently feel distant from Him)

I’m giving you a glimpse into my client-only Subconscious Sovereignty™ Framework in my new workshop:

Claim your free seat here.

LS x

After Meeting Jesus & Leaving Religious Christianity, I NEVER Try To Be A “Good Person” Anymore.

When my focus was on being a “good Christian” or a “good person”, my focus was on trying to be something outside of me. An ideal. I’m still trying to fit a mould.

I’m still in perfectionism, pushing, forcing proving energy..

Which is STILL self-abandonment.

And when we are in Self-Abandonment Mode, we cannot just be. There’s always a measure, a standard.

And it’s never enough

Meaning that INSTEAD OF shining bright, being fully and unapologetically yourself, owning and using your voice, being anchored in your worth, uniqueness and just who you are and loving God and being in his presence..

You’re focused on trying to be something. Its a lot of energy and effort we weren’t born to expend

So in order to just be my full, sparkly self..

Who is imperfect

And does her best

I just sit with Jesus. I have conversations with him.

And I let him change me.

I dont try to be this or that.

I surrender and allow his goodness, love and grace to wash over me and be a salve to the parts of me that need to transform.

So instead of burning myself out, making myself anxious in performance and self abandonment, I get to pause and be refilled and restored by the ultimate restorer: the God of the universe who made me and loves me immeasurably.

I get to be my authentic, amazing, fun, sparkly, imperfect self who is evolving and growing and changing

I just get to BE.

This also leaves no space for my ego to sit in pride above others. It’s a beautiful, humble, vulnerable place to be.

(a radically different Leah than the one who used to sit in religious judgment over everyone..)

… And can I just say – it is SO LIBERATING!

Trying to be a “good person” after you’ve left your religious background, is just the same religious thinking without Christianity tied to it. You are still not free. This is still the thing causing anxiety and burnout. This is still the loud inner critic rumbling around in the background.

You don’t have to live this way – the FIRST thing we will do when we work together is to untangle all of your conditioning so you can BREATHE DEEPLY again without the pressure sitting on your chest.

By the way, if you want to be more of your AUTHENTIC & undimmable self in your life, business and/or faith instead of trying to be a something that you’re not..

Grab your seat to my free workshop coming soon where I show you the exact shifts I had to make to go from “Good Christian Girl” to unapologetically me.

LS x

PS. “Good person” or “good Christian” by whose standards? By which person, church, denomination? Because we all don’t agree. This is why I only care to sit with God.

I don’t even care for my own standards of “Good Person”, I’ve learned I carry enough conditioning and bias for even that to not be good enough

You Don’t Need More Nervous System Regulation. This Is What You Need For Past Trauma Healing Instead.

I see this sooooo often.

Everyone’s out here seeking nervous system regulation for past trauma healing, when what you really need is trigger removal.

Take it from me, I am both trauma-informed and someone who has healed the majority of her cPTSD. (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder):

It’s a shortcut nobody is talking about…

There is nothing wrong with your nervous system; it is working PERFECTLY!

You need to stop acting as if your nervous system is BROKEN. It isn’t! It is working perfectly!!!! Exactly how it is designed.

2. They’ll have you saying 50,000 affirmations, booking a billion somatic healing sessions, doing more breath work.

But here’s what they don’t know or understand:

Your nervous system is only dysregulated often because your >>triggers<< still exist.

Remove them and the nervous system NATURALLY regulates. This is why we work on the roots and not behavioural modification or calming techniques.

When I talk about trigger removal I mean addressing the trigger to remove it in >>me<<, not just the environment.

This way, I don’t always need the external environment to change for me to be/feel okay.

Sometimes a change in environment is powerful and useful – I moved interstate in 2018 for this reason. It is still the best decision I ever made for myself..

AND it didn’t actually remove my triggers; I still have to do the work.

THIS IS WHY

This is why my high achieving clients spend tens of thousands working with other coaches/mentors and then work with me and take off!

This is why I have been through so much in life, yet am so normal LOL

This is why I am so FREE to SHINE BRIGHT and be myself, unapologetically – DESPITE the pressure of expectations, society, community, friends and family and religious spheres.

How do you remove your triggers?

You work with me + we work with your subconscious internal world as different aspects of you, eg. Little 8yo Beth. Guiding you to lead yourself to release outdated roles, patterns, conditioning, beliefs.

Join my next free workshop to get started shifting these effectively, NOW.

LS x

You Can’t Be Authentic While Working Hard AGAINST The Toxic Religious & Masculine Conditioning Your Grew Up With

Some of you are working so hard AGAINST the toxic religious & masculine conditioning you grew up with around AUTHORITY that it’s limiting your potential now

.. it’s directly impacting your ability to show up now, as a female leader in HEALTHY authority & voice in your mission.

I GET IT. I grew up with it. I married it. I bound myself to communities with it.

(And then I divorced it, untangled myself from it, deconditioned it and now I work with others to do the same)

We always overcompensate for any area of trauma and conditioning we haven’t released/rewired.

It’s hard to show up powerfully in an area you felt powerless.

It’s hard to show up authentically in an area you hated.

It’s hard not to swing to the opposite end of the pendulum when you haven’t fully untangled, deconditioned & rewired it.

If you grew up in controlling religious environments or controlling family, or particularly narcissistic/controlling father..

And you are an entrepreneurial woman now who is ready for her unapologetic era (but in a healthy way that supports her wellbeing and authentic honest faith) this post is for you.

I see SO MUCH MORE for you than to still be bound (for whenever we are against our past, we are still bound by it)

I see your authentic self.. under the layers of fighting against. Under the layers of your inner Good Christian Girl who is still there (otherwise you wouldn’t need to fight so hard against it)..

And I can lead you to freedom on the other side –

Free to be you

Free to use your voice

Free to be your weird, quirky self

Free to create the highest level of impact you were born for

This is a part of the work – seeing that working so hard against it is also limiting you, desiring freedom and doing the deep work to cut the chains so that the generations that come behind you are also liberated to truth and authenticity vs living in reaction.

This is the “work” that we do in my world (that I’ve been told is FUN!).

Click here to join my next free workshop to untangle and embrace your freedom!

LS x

“I’m Going To Be The Very Thing You Didn’t Want Me To Be” Is Not Being Unapologetically YOU.

“I’m going to be the very thing you didn’t want me to be” is not being unapologetically you, it’s a trauma response.

(Eg. You grew up with religious parents who encouraged Good Christian Girl conditioning)

And now you understandably push back on all things religious Christianity.. even if a part of you feels disconnected and maybe even kind of misses aspects

The way you push back (fight) against who they tried to mould you into (eg. The Good Christian Girl Archetype) determines how much of your true self you actually get to claim back so you are free to be you.

The truly empowered woman doesn’t try to fit or try not to fit a label.

She just, is.

I can guide you into this freedom when you are finally ready to meet the REAL her.

Claim your free seat at my next workshop to untangle from it here.

Always seeing you in your magic,

LS x

God Didn’t Design You To Be A ‘Good Christian Girl’.

God never desired you to be a facade, a shell of yourself, or a Good Christian Girl who could only comply, dim herself and her voice down and fit the mould of who “they” desired her to be.

For the female entrepreneur; this facet of religious upbringing – the Good Christian Girl facade that you may have been unintentionally conditioned to be – is religious trauma.

This is probably why you feel burnt out

Why being your authentic self in your life and business feels “wrong”

Why you dim your sparkle down when you know you are born to shine bright

Why you silence your voice sometimes (and kick yourself later for it)

And why it may feel hard to be honest with God, having an honest faith without the perfectionism and trying to keep a mask in place.

I am not going to minimise it, because it’s incredibly toxic.

But if you are a high-achieving action-taking business-owner type, you need to reclaim your FOCUS..

.. we need to decondition and rewire this so that you are no longer impacted by something in the past

so you no longer burn yourself out trying to be a Good Christian Girl (subconsciously) – being nice to everyone
so you no longer make misaligned decisions
so you no longer feel boxed-in to a certain niche / offer / message
so you no longer pretzel yourself to fit the approval and expectations of others
so you are focused, lit up and in your own lane loving life!
so you are FREE TO BE YOU, with God.

You are not far away from your authentic self. She is already within you! She is already slamming on the brakes and trying to spin you in a new direction..

The real question is – are you finally ready to get her the CLARITY and internal shifts she needs to have her mind blown and feel LIT UP again?!

The deep is calling you! Let’s gooooo

LS x

A Must-Read If You Learned God Through The Lens Of Wounded Men.

When we have grown up learning God through the lens of wounded men, we have to be careful that we don’t relearn God through the lens of wounded women.

The lens of wounded women is the most attractive lens to us after we have had our spiritual awakening/faith crisis.

It’s the one most relatable.

And the one most poisonous.

Because while she sells freedom, yet she simply traps us into another paradigm – one where we block our own freedom, restoration and soul-nourishing connection to God.

And where we continue to pass on our own wounds.

Burnt Out But Can’t Stop Proving Yourself? This Is For You.

If you feel burnt-out but can’t stop proving and pushing (even though you are financially secure); you need to focus on creating deep internal security around your worth.

The COMPULSION to prove and push is there to stop you feeling anxious. It’s not the problem, it’s a defence mechanism (why sabbaticals, breaks and holidays are only temporarily helpful).

The anxiety is there to tell you that you must take action or a deep need isn’t going to be met. Again, the anxiety is NOT the problem.. and is why the extra wine at night, the doom scrolling, the constantly trying to “regulate” yourself isn’t working long-term..

And the deep need. Well, she is there to remind you that you’re human, and that your needs matter if you are going to do work that lights you up and unleashes soul-aligned impact from overflow instead of burnout and anxiety.

The deep need of self-worth BEFORE you ACHIEVE, PERFORM or DO anything is one that we can only go so long without burning out / making ourselves loco.

So many will have you focused on calming measures, escape measures, and behavioural change that doesn’t actually do much.

In my world, we look beneath the layers that others don’t to access the freedom many won’t.

Because we know that when we finally address the ROOTS of what is going on in your internal system, that it releases the anxiety and compulsions so you can shine brightly in the world as YOU (and not some overworking maniac).

Click here to join my latest free workshop!

Love you,

LS x

This Is The Kind Of Community That Christian & Former Christian Women Need To Be More Authentic

Often for decades, former ‘Good Christian Girls’ have been surrounded by women absorbing the same conditioning and teachings as them:

that their needs and desire don’t matter
that their value is in constantly serving others
that they need to receive the approval of the community
that they should appear to be compliant, appeasing and nice to everyone
that it’s mean/unkind to have boundaries
that it’s wrong to shine bright or draw any attention to yourself
.. and so much more.

This creates whole communities of women who believe their conditioning and misaligned behaviour is normal.

Women who –

have conditioned themselves to stuff down what they really think or feel
silently struggle with burnout and anxiety.
even normalise things like staying in the confines of a man-made idealised persona like the ‘Good Christian Girl’ – being someone you’re not just to feel belonging and acceptance.

Well, not in my world!

In my world we are honest and authentic

We use our voices

Challenge thinking without ego

We dig deeper into who we really are

We own our wants and needs

We shine bright, unapologetically!

We love on each other

We listen without judgement

We own our boundaries

We have fun!!!!

We explode our ceilings.

We cheer each other on.

And we do it together.

This can be you and me on a call, workshopping your next big aligned business move TOMORROW.

But I mean, keep dimming yourself down if you want 😉

Click here to join my next free workshop to break FREE from the toxicity of the ‘Good Christian Girl’ Archetype, to instead be unapologetically and authentically YOU – co-creating wild impact with God.

LS x

Burnout Doesn’t Happen Because Of How Many Hours You Work. Here’s The Truth That Will Set You Free.

Burnout doesn’t happen because of how many hours you work; it happens because of the energy you use to achieve those hours.

And it’s not as simple as “take more breaks” or “I just need to rest more”.

You’re smart enough to know that this doesn’t work for you, because when you finally DO rest.. you struggle to relax, you feel anxious, can’t switch off and resort to more escape mechanisms to be able to switch off.

There is NO judgement from me, I’m just here for those that are 100% done with these patterns and are ready to step out of the dysfunction for good so that you can make your soul-aligned impact from being lit-up and authentic rather than being exhausted and frustrated.

This is also why sabbaticals + holidays + onboarding more staff don’t work long-term for those with patterns of burnout.

Proving Energy

Pushing Energy

Perfectionism Energy

People pleasing Energy

Performing Energy

Pretzeling Energy

= ALL MISALIGNED to who you are, all exhausting to operate in continuously. These are the things you must face to break the pattern.

When we are in these energies, it’s because we have not taken God-given sovereignty over something in our internal world.

In my world we decondition, we peel back the layers, we get to the ROOTS so that there is no longer a DRIVE in us to operate in these energies.

Click here to join my next workshop for former “Good Christian Girls” who are ready to break FREE from pattern of burnout, people-pleasing, perfection.. to instead be unapologetically authentic and shine bright in their unique magic in the world for their highest impact and potential.

LS x