The World Doesn’t Need More Good Christian Girls

The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs unleashed women like Esther

Who despite her history as a girl trafficked into sexual slavery to the King

She owned who she was as Queen

And used her voice and position to confront the king

She spoke the truth

Even in the face of fear

Even in the face of death

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The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs more brave women like Rahab

Who despite her history

Went against her culture and city

And used her voice

Her home and her resources

To hide spies for Team God

And believed God would come through

In the face of fear

In the face of threat

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The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs more unleashed women like Mary Magdalene

Who despite her history of having seven demons

Was a devoted follower of Jesus

Not caring what others thought of her

She embraced her new transformed identity

And used her position to help fund Jesus’ ministry

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We don’t need more Good Christian Girls who hide their emotions

We need unleashed open-hearted women

Like the woman who washed Jesus feet with her tears

The text describes her as a woman who had lived a sinful life #relatable

Who boldly walked into the house of a Pharisee – a religious teacher – while they were dining

Whose heart was so open that she stood by Jesus

Overwhelmed with what – awe? Gratitude? Love?

She let her tears fall to his feet

Then knelt and wiped his feet with her hair

In front of the eyes of judgmental religious men

She no doubt felt overwhelming levels of shame

As they pointed out what she had done

However she deeply knew the immeasurable value of the man sitting in front of her

She no doubt felt love and compassion radiating from him

As she poured out extravagantly expensive perfume

And kissed his feet

Feet soon to be pierced for her

Not caring what the religious leaders thought of her

She vulnerably and open-heartedly displayed her affection for Him.

(I wonder should this occur in modern churches how she would be judged for how inappropriate, overly emotional and sensual she was being)

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No.

We don’t need more good Christian girls

Stuffing down their voices

Avoiding leadership

Pretending silence is godliness

And niceness is kindness

Holding everything together with a perfect facade

Avoiding their identity as Daughter of The King

We need women transformed by the truth

Being led by God

Powerfully speaking up

Vulnerably and open-heartedly facing the world

Bravely stepping into purpose

Without caring what others may think of them

It’s costly and frustrating to keep the good Christian girl facade going when you know you were born for more

When you feel him calling you into more for him

If you are finally ready to make the transition from Good Christian Girl to unleashed God-led CEO..

Not caring what anyone thinks of you except God himself

LS x

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You Left & Deconstructed Toxic Christianity – So Why Do You Still Abandon Yourself?

You thought you could leave “her” behind – your inner Good Christian Girl – the version of you you used to be – the version you’ve outgrown.. 

And you have tried. Maybe you left the church you grew up in, changed denominations, found new people.. maybe even deconstructed your faith.. 

But somehow – you’re not completely free of the identity you inherited, the identity that never fit, that required your constant compliance, silence, shrinking and pretzelling just to receive an ounce of belonging, power, acceptance, or even love.

And maybe you even see that she – this part of you that still sometimes makes an appearance – is at odds with the authentic, unapologetic leader you are now.. leading to alot of frustration.

You see – the Good Christian Girl Identity doesn’t just STAY in the past – she’s here with you right now, in your business when you silence yourself instead of owning who you are and what you do, she’s in your brand when you keep to the mould of what you “should” do vs fully owning who you ARE, and she’s in your energy when you step into PROVING ENERGY, chasing misaligned goals and clients – instead of bringing your work into alignment that would leave you energised and excited. 

The thing is though, the Good Christian Girl Identity isn’t about knowledge – we can KNOW in our minds that women are just as significant as men, and deserve a voice – but we still censor ourselves in moments we want to take a stand – particularly as female leaders.

The Good Christian Girl is not about knowledge – she has been conditioned through teachings, through osmosis, through time. Over and over again she has been affirmed for being small, compliant, quiet and fitting a certain mould..

This is where her safety comes from. And so we cannot simply just work harder to change her – we must address the roots of the pattern where the identity actually lives – in your body and subconscious mind.

And so trying to deconstruct your beliefs.

Giving yourself “permission”

Working hard to change your behaviour

Finding community that “understands”

Is not going to work. And over the last 14+ years I’ve been obsessively studying what does. 

Click here to download your free “GUIDE” and I’ll send you a copy of The Hidden Psychology of The Good Christian Girl Identity guide + playbook where I help you identify your fastest path towards your most unapologetic, wildly impactful YOU.

LS x

You Don’t Have To Choose Between God & Your Authentic Self

I’m Leah Samara,

I’m a Spiritual Identity & Brand Strategist who guides hyper-achieving former ‘Good Christian Girls’ to be closer to God and free to be your authentic self while co-creating a wildly impactful life – without losing yourself.

I grew up trying to be the Good Christian Girl – fully believing that I was ‘serving God’ with my self-abandonment – over-giving, self-silencing, people-pleasing, shrinking, playing small.. 

.. thinking I couldn’t be myself AND have a close connection with God.

In my mid-20s I developed a severe autoimmune disease while in a toxic marriage I thought I had to stay in because “God hates divorce” – and I hated God for it. I hated that he “made” me stay and pretend it wasn’t killing me to follow the rules and *maybe* make God happy with me. 

In my late 20s and close to the end of my marriage I had a spiritual awakening with Jesus – a supernatural experience with Jesus himself – completely different from my strict religious upbringing – and it forever changed me!

From then I began allowing God to recalibrate me to who it is that he made me to be – the real, unapologetic Leah – instead of the religious, familial and cultural boxes I was brought up in.

Over the last 6 years working with high achieving former ‘Good Christian Girl’ clients and over 16 years in my consulting businesses, I found that my story wasn’t unique – the patterns repeated in others, creating the same beliefs, identities and upper limits.

After walking this journey of awakening, resetting faith & true spiritual identity, reclaiming my unapologetic voice and self-expression, realigning my brand and business with God and now scaling this big, bold, meaningful life and legacy he’s recalibrated me to – I can say:

You don’t have to choose between your authentic self and being close to God – or choose between God and wild levels of impact.

In my world we hold all 3 at once!

I’m excited you’re here! Please see the captain for your snorkel & fins. We dive in the next 10 mins !

Click here for your copy of: “The Hidden Psychology of The Good Christian Girl Identity” Guide which shows you how to break free to co-create a wildly impactful life with God. 

LS x

The Map To Your Freedom: The Spiritually Wealthy™ Master Map

I’m about to hand you the exact process you needed to break free from your Good Christian Girl Identity to become The Spiritually Wealthy Woman – the hyper achieving woman who is fully herself, walking closely with God and co-creating your impactful life’s work..

If you’re a hyper-achieving woman who grew up as a ‘Good Christian Girl’ – you don’t need anyone to give you PERMISSION to be who you already know you are: The Spiritually Wealthy CEO.

You already gave yourself permission.. you just keep hitting ceilings around your voice, vibrance, authority, business and calling – ceilings that, if they were eradicated in the next 8 weeks+, you would be UNSTOPPABLE – with God, without losing yourself.

This is the map to your freedom.

INTRODUCING

The Spiritually Wealthy Identity Master Map™

The Spiritually Wealthy™ Master Map - by Leah Samara SAMARA® © SAMARA® 2025-2026

Drawn on intellectual property I painstakingly yet lovingly created between 2021-2026, and further developed in its current form in 2025, The Master Map guides you – as a hyper-achieving woman born for more – to identify:

– “Where” you are in your ground-up identity evolution,
– What your next focus area is to become the woman who creates soul-aligned impact with God,
– What is possible for you when you follow The Spiritually Wealthy Identity™ methodology and
– Which of the SAMARA® or The Golden Goose® (both of Leah’s brands) suite of offers would be your most potent match to continue upgrading you to the next stage – this is called “The Ecosystem” below.

This is a trademark identity recalibration process lovingly-crafted over Leah’s 17+ years of expertise as a high-level strategist to high achievers across the globe.

Click here to explore the map – and your liberating next steps – in full.

LS x

Is She A Heretic, Or Are You Just Spiritually Immature?

Welcome to today’s post where I will surely offend someone lol

I’ve been thinking lately, watching how many Christian (and spiritual people) operate online – and wanted to share what I see..

There are different stages of spiritual thinking and my posts are working to open you up to a higher perspective than the one you already have and maintain. 

That may be why they sometimes rub you the wrong way.. or create an uncomfortable feeling like “is she a heretic” but like you also can’t look away lol, or an unsettled feeling that leads to the impulse to correct vs inviting curiosity. 

Sometimes we think this is spiritual discernment, but it’s just that we have not matured in our perspective..

Let me explain.

It’s not that I technically disagree with you – you are just at level 1 or 2, and not yet seeing more nuance that’s available. 

Stage 1

Stage 1 thinking is often just regurgitated from church and popular teachers. It proves you’re a good Listener and a good parrot. It’s the “right” answer, and you’re often focused on being right. And correcting people back to this supposed “rightness”.

It’s about finding emotional safety in correctness instead of Christ himself alone.

Many Christians are still here swimming in the kiddie pool, with their fluro orange floaties on, while on social media in the comments section. This is why it’s not pretty.

So many Christians never leave this level. They are satisfied being fed by church regurgitated info like a baby bird because it means they never need to go and find or digest food on their own. They never mature. This is often – not always – the spirit of religion. 

When we are first introduced to Jesus we do alot of learning from regurgitation. But we were never designed to stay there, because regurgitation is not discipleship. It’s knowledge.

(I’m not saying church is wrong/bad)

Stage 2

Stage 2 thinking is a little more nuanced.

 It sees that many Christian environments have missed important nuance about things like our identity in Christ (and not in people or identities like the Good Christian Girl), what being made in the image of God really means, how powerful we are etc. But it is still embedded somewhat in being right and correct, and parroting answers like a good girl. 

Still trying to find emotional safety in correctness,  still unable to sit in nuance, unknowns, differences.

It is learning that discipleship is not just about knowledge and awareness – how many Bible verses I can quote, how many arguments I can “win” because of how smart I am in biblical knowledge.

Stage 3 + Beyond

Stage 3 + beyond can hold more nuance. 

It is an ego that is not influenced by the spirit of religion anymore. 

When needing to be a good parrot, right, correct fades away.. we not only save a lot time and energy – but we just stay connected to the vine, learning and operating from humility and simplicity.

It’s sitting at the feet of Jesus in humility – not in ego. 

We are then left with an identity that can really begin to wrestle with God and others – with less ego – in bigger levels of unknowns, uncertainty and nuance in topics we previously fully believed were black and white. 

We begin to listen more to Holy Spirit – 

Asking him for more details, truths, deeper understanding – not just to KNOW but to be truly TRANSFORMED by the **actual ** renewing of our minds 

We can see and hold nuance with less reactivity to those who are different..

Maybe even thinking there might be an ounce of gold I can glean here, something God might be trying to show me here.. 

We approach with curiosity and “mulling it over” deeply – to see what is initially unseen – before jumping to correct. 

Here we no longer abandon ourselves – because we know that we don’t have to perform correctness to be deeply seen, known, loved and held by God (or others) 

No longer performing the identity of the one who has all the answers, the Good Christian Girl, the smart one, the one who is always right, the one who is the best student, the one who impresses her pastor leaders or others at church, the one who withholds her real opinions thoughts feelings.. even doubts and silences her voice.

Here we walk in more freedom and energy because our ego needs to follow every impulse it feels (often to correct others to our level 1 view). 

Here we are actually PLIABLE. Not in a gullible way, but in a God-way. We are finally in a place where we can receive from him. 

We understand everyone is on their own journey, that I am not the saviour of the world, and that walking with God means tapping into a VASTNESS of wisdom so expansive that it reaches far beyond what I’ve always parroted, and that I always have a lot to learn. 

This is not about being BETTER but they are the staes of spiritual AND emotional maturity that comes from true deep identity work that releases you from an ego still heavily influenced by the spirit of religion – even if you never even knew that it was operating.

You’re over there trying to be right. 

I’m over here trying to raise your level of thinking. I do not post to be right, I post to open you to new perspectives for growth.

We are not the same.

This is why I won’t agree or often engage with your attempted corrective comments. Not because I need to be right – though this is my platform and I am responsible for its stewardship – but I do not bow the knee to spirits other than the Holy Spirit, or to those operating from a perspective that does not see nuance where I see an immense multicoloured rainbow.

May this expand you, excite you, and drive you to  a depth of not just more knowledge and “awareness”, but a depth in your relationship with God you never knew possible.

LS x

The Hidden Psychology Of The Good Christian Girl Identity™

If you’re a hyper-achieving woman who grew up as a ‘Good Christian Girl’ and you keep hitting ceilings around your voice, vibrance, authority, business and calling – ceilings that, if they were eradicated in the next 90 days, you would be UNSTOPPABLE..

You don’t need anyone to give you PERMISSION to be who you already know you are, you already gave your damn self permission.

You don’t need more affirmations and mindset work that waste your time and give you little to show for it (other than alot of self blame and feeling not enough).

You don’t need to just “feel understood” –

Or “be less alone” in a community of “like minded” women who bond over their wounds and trauma and never grow.

You know your Good Christian Girl noise runs deeper than all of that – and you’re here for deep and thorough results this time.

Here’s what you actually need:

To deeply understand the hidden psychology of the Good Christian Girl Identity™.

Because until you understand just how DEEP this thing runs? You’ll be trying every surface level solution wondering why it’s not budging, and wondering if maybe there is something wrong with you.

I’m here to tell you – there is NOTHING wrong with you – you just need to understand her, and be handed the right strategies to decondition from the religious, familial and cultural conditioning you inherited – to release what is past, unlock your unapologetic era and forge your own path..

You were not born to settle, to lose yourself, to scale from misalignment and burnout.

You are highly resilient, brilliant and born to co-create wild levels of impact with God himself.

And it’s time to shine ✨

Click here to downloaod your free copy of my pro field guide & playbook now.

It’s packed with 16+ years in the arena with high-achieving professionals, along with 6+ years of studying and working with former Good Christian Girls.

This is deep work, and I’m invested in handing you the soul-nourishing short cuts to your freedom.

LS x

Break Free From The Good Christian Girl Identity™

Breaking free from The Good Christian Girl Identity™ requires mastery of the whole ecosystem –

Theology, psychology/trauma, identity, energetics, leadership, and years of learning to walk in Holy Spirit-led faith and surrender.

.. and, particularly for the hyper-achieving women who are ready to unapologetically co-create extraordinary impact – business and brand strategy – brand strategy is to package and position you and your work after this transformation with clear aligned messaging to your unique niche.

This is why your pastor, psychologist, business coach, sales coach, relationship coach, nor random online content creator speaking about “good girl” anything are not, nor will ever be – enough for you in this arena.

You’ve outgrown them all and are ready for your next level of breakthrough, with a guide experienced at navigating the entire elaborate ecosystem.

The depth always and only speaks to those destined for the extraordinary. The depth is my specialty.

LS x

How To Own Your Personal Sovereignty (Despite Controlling Religious Men)

Recently I was reminded how I reclaimed my voice and sovereignty from unhealthy and controlling religious men.

A male family member who had abandoned me after I wouldn’t obey/submit to him reached out to me. No apology just expectation of access. It was graciously denied.

I won’t go into the whole story, but wanted to share this:

I come from a religious Christian family where most of the men seem to believe they have authority over me simply because I’m a woman. 

Where my and the other females in my family had a role. That role was to always “respect” and “obey” and “submit” to them..

Regardless of whether they deserved it

Regardless of how I felt about it

Regardless of their treatment of me.

But because God supposedly said so.

Where not doing so came with consequences: 

Male adult tantrums

The silent treatment (for weeks on end while they were still being served of course)

Abandonment

Religious abuse

Estrangement – some decided by me, some not.

I distinctly felt this kick into a higher gear after my divorce over a decade ago..

After I stood up to and left ex (who was also obsessed with my “submission” to him)

After I drew a line in the sand

After I began finding myself, voice and sovereignty.

Where the unspoken rule is that I supposedly left my ex-husband’s authority and returned to theirs (for a sinful woman like Eve who was easily deceived surely needs the “covering” of man to navigate the world lol).

.. which clashed more with newly-divorced adult Leah who was finding her sovereignty more than Little Good Christian Girl Leah ever did.

Yet despite all this.. 

Through my spiritual awakening with and in Jesus – freedom upon freedom came:

I found my peace, my voice, my sanity, my Spiritual Wealth™. 

A cup so full, breadcrumbs no longer felt like a banquet 

Control no longer felt normal 

And low effort no longer an event I felt obligated to attend.

What came was a deep sense of my significance – that despite everything I was conditioned to believe about myself as a person and particularly a woman, that I was and am so deeply valued by and delighted in by God himself ..

Meaning I was so satisfied and fulfilled that, as I allowed God access to the different parts of my heart, I stopped chasing what was misaligned, what wasn’t good for me, who wasn’t good for me. 

A gained the space, freedom, courage to be my authentic self, without constantly performing a persona to be approved of 

I gained CLARITY and direction around what was and was not for me 

A voice so strong I no longer go unheard – nor do I stay in spaces who refuse me a voice at the table..

And so much more. 

Im FREE to no longer perform for family

Sweeping things under the rug and pretending it’s all fine

Swallowing family dysfunction

Enabling others in their dysfunction 

I know I’m likely to be seen as rebellious, difficult, unforgiving and selfish for these.

And I honestly just don’t care anymore – not in a faux powerful way, but in a neutral “meh” kind of way

Because one the biggest gifts this has all given me is freedom from what they, my family and others, think of me. 

AND BY A GENUINE MIRACLE – instead of becoming a bitter woman, I somehow found joy, authenticity, communion and balance instead. 

Not hating men and tarring them all with the “all men are bad” brush, but holding certain men accountable.

Not blaming God for the actions of men, but holding certain men accountable. 

I’m so proud of the sovereign woman I am today. 

Not shrinking back

Silencing myself

Making myself small 

Not bowing to the darkness in my bloodline 

Owning my voice

Protecting my peace from the endless toxic loops of people who never change.

And for those of you who need to hear it:

There does come a time when estrangement is holy. 

Where distance is actually protection, God’s protection.

Where distraction is from darkness.

Where the past is a thief of identity

Where the darkness flowing from those called “family” should be silenced (as Jesus did).

God will use their abandonment and neglect of you for YOUR good, I promise – 

It’s time to step into your full sovereignty and be who you were born to be – without their approval.

LS x

What Your Life With God Can Be Like – Without All The Rules

When I was a legalistic Christian I could not even begin to imagine life without all the “rules”.

I thought those who didn’t adhere strictly to the rules were rebellious, bad, wrong.

I was constantly anxious about what God thought about me

About how he’d react, and how he’d punish me if I made a mistake 

I walked on eggshells to protect his (seemingly) fragile male ego

Always micro analysing all of my actions 

Obsessed about whether something was “right” vs “wrong”

Always wanting to be “good” not “bad” 

And constantly scared that I was disappointing God, letting him down, and not performing “good enough” to make him pleased with me.

I didn’t realise that I was a walking fear bomb (which is like a glitter bomb but not nearly as sparkly and fun).

With a HIGHLY INACCURATE view of both myself AND God himself. 

And today, I find many Christians who believe in grace and Jesus and all things “God is good” walk in these exact same feelings and fears today – often without any awareness that these feelings are rumbling around in them

Creating a hyper-vigilance that can’t be turned off

And that is sometimes celebrated and taught in churches today.  

Here’s what had to change for me:

I’m going to share with you how to see yourself and God more accurately..

Without man-made Doctrines Of Fear clouding your vision..

Because by now after reading this, if you’ve gotten this far, you’ve related to a lot of what I’ve said..

Perhaps articulating something you hadn’t been able to put your finger on.

Well, my friend – Jesus is holding out to you a brand new level of freedom to tap into..

The question is – will you relinquish control, man-made doctrines long enough to not just hear it, but absorb it and live differently because of it?

Over my relationship with God, and lots of correction of my SIGHT in communion with Him, he taught me about himself.

About his heart, as a father. 

That he wants what is BEST for me. 

(Feel into that)

The God who created you wants His best for you!

This becomes then more about the ABUNDANCE of what God holds out FOR you, than it is about the LIMITATION of what he’s asking you to avoid (for your own good)

He’s saying “Sunshine sparkle, don’t go there, it won’t be good for you and I want and have soooooo much more for you!”

It’s not about the limitation and restriction

It’s about how much he loves you and has for you

It’s not about asking “is this right or wrong?” “How close can I get to the line?” “Am I good or bad?”

It IS about asking – “Is this God’s best FOR ME?”

It’s about aligning with the will and heart of God –  instead of being scared to disappoint or upset him.

This changes the energy of the relationship

from daughter who walks on eggshells, constantly checking herself and worried about God’s reaction, worrying about disappointing Him – to one of life partnership with the Father.

Co-creating, together, from that relationship.

And no longer about restriction and limitation, but instead enjoying abundance.

I’ve learned that what God holds out in his hand FOR ME, is always far better than the things he tells me to avoid – or even better than I could dream and envision for myself! 

This is how you live life with God, without religion, without the “rules” and limitations – communing, receiving love, being delighted in, being guided 

And walking in alignment to God’s best. 

I promise when you do this WITH God, you’ll walk in so much more self-worth, significance and self-respect

And you’ll make ripples of impact just from showing up in the world while communing with the God who wants more for you.

LS x 

God Will Fight This Smear Campaign For You. Here’s How:

That smear campaign you’re going through – God hasn’t abandoned you. He promises to fight for you, here’s how: 

Not only have I lived through at least 3 wild smear campaigns, I survived WITH God.

He has not abandoned you. He’s got you, I promise – even when it doesn’t feel like it. Stay faithful. Let him work:

– “the mouths of liars will be silenced” Psalm 63:11

– you’ll hide in the shadow of his wings

– he will be for you a shelter

– he will send angel armies to guard your life

– he will rescue you because he delights in you

– he will bring you out into a spacious place

– he will revive you

– he will increase your honour and comfort you Psalm 71:21

– he redeems your life from the pit. Psalm 103:4

– he renews your youth. Psalm 103:5

– he will trample your enemies Psalm 108:13

– he will restore what the enemy has stolen

– he will never leave or forsake you

– if they attack, you will not be overcome

“Adonai knows how the wholehearted suffer, but their inheritance lasts forever.” Psalm 37:18

Get into the Psalms – especially Psalm 37! “Don’t be upset by evildoers or envious of those who do wrong, for soon they will either like grass…”

King David knew exactly what it feels like to be smeared, hunted and lied about..

He was honest with God about what he felt

“Pour out your heart before him..” Psalm 62:8

And to our benefit he wrote and wrote about his heart’s cry to God.

Don’t let what they’re saying about you change the way you feel about God. They’re not that powerful.

He’s got you!

For I am convinced that no smear campaign or religious abuse, no liar, nor darkness, no enemy, no family dysfunction can separate you from the love of God through Jesus.

LS x