I’ve been there—the moment where you feel like everything you thought you knew is unraveling, and it feels like a crisis.

But what if this isn’t a breakdown but a break through?

What if this is God calling you out of inauthenticity and into freedom?

The toxic beliefs, the perfectionism, and the shame-based religious mindsets and theology—that’s not Him. This is the point where you get to meet God as He truly is, not as you were taught to see Him. Here are the shifts that radically transformed my faith, and they’re the same shifts that help my clients, too.


SHIFT #1: Untangling from Toxic Conditioning

I had to go through a process of religious deconditioning. It was essential to break free from the codependent, perfectionistic, people-pleasing faith I’d been taught. This was about untangling from the shame and obligation that came from toxic religious beliefs, so I could finally be my real, raw, honest self with God.


SHIFT #2: Discovering God Outside of Toxic Religious Christianity

Rediscovering God meant releasing the old teachings that labeled self-care as selfish or made me feel like I could never measure up. In stepping outside of those confines, I found a God who invites us to flourish, not burn out.


SHIFT #3: Healing from the Impact of My Faith History

My complex history with toxic religious Christianity deeply impacted how I viewed God. I struggled to feel safe with Him because of the religious abuse, divorce, smear campaigns, and other painful experiences that shaped me. It’s no wonder that trust felt nearly impossible. Healing meant allowing all of me to come before God—raw, real, and loved just as I am.


SHIFT #4: Recognizing My Projections on God Due to Past Trauma

My relationship with my earthly dad influenced how I viewed God’s nature and character. Trauma in our past relationships, especially with men, can create projections and blind spots when it comes to God. It took intentional healing to stop seeing God through the distorted lens of my past. Experiencing Him as a loving Father was a breakthrough in seeing His true nature.


SHIFT #5: Realizing It’s Possible to Have a Healthy, Nourishing Relationship with God

I didn’t believe it at first, but it is possible to have a close, nourishing relationship with God that isn’t about control or losing yourself. He isn’t asking you to disappear; He’s inviting you to be fully you. God wants a relationship where you don’t have to fit into someone else’s version of faith—you get to bring your true self to the table.


So, if you’re in the midst of a crisis of faith, take heart. God is calling you out of shame and control, out of toxic mindsets, and into freedom, authenticity, and deep connection with Him. This is the kind of faith that sustains and nourishes every part of your life, from your relationships to your purpose.

You don’t have to walk this path alone. If you’re ready to break free and step into an honest, soul-nourishing faith, click the link in my bio to learn more about my journey and how I help others do the same.

In my mastermind: Free To Be You, I personally walk my high-achieving female clients through to the freedom to be both untangled from toxic religious experiences and conditioning while being fully themselves with God.

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LS x

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