Category: Self Development

You Don’t Need More Nervous System Regulation. This Is What You Need For Past Trauma Healing Instead.

I see this sooooo often.

Everyone’s out here seeking nervous system regulation for past trauma healing, when what you really need is trigger removal.

Take it from me, I am both trauma-informed and someone who has healed the majority of her cPTSD. (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder):

It’s a shortcut nobody is talking about…

There is nothing wrong with your nervous system; it is working PERFECTLY!

You need to stop acting as if your nervous system is BROKEN. It isn’t! It is working perfectly!!!! Exactly how it is designed.

2. They’ll have you saying 50,000 affirmations, booking a billion somatic healing sessions, doing more breath work.

But here’s what they don’t know or understand:

Your nervous system is only dysregulated often because your >>triggers<< still exist.

Remove them and the nervous system NATURALLY regulates. This is why we work on the roots and not behavioural modification or calming techniques.

When I talk about trigger removal I mean addressing the trigger to remove it in >>me<<, not just the environment.

This way, I don’t always need the external environment to change for me to be/feel okay.

Sometimes a change in environment is powerful and useful – I moved interstate in 2018 for this reason. It is still the best decision I ever made for myself..

AND it didn’t actually remove my triggers; I still have to do the work.

THIS IS WHY

This is why my high achieving clients spend tens of thousands working with other coaches/mentors and then work with me and take off!

This is why I have been through so much in life, yet am so normal LOL

This is why I am so FREE to SHINE BRIGHT and be myself, unapologetically – DESPITE the pressure of expectations, society, community, friends and family and religious spheres.

How do you remove your triggers?

You work with me + we work with your subconscious internal world as different aspects of you, eg. Little 8yo Beth. Guiding you to lead yourself to release outdated roles, patterns, conditioning, beliefs.

Join my next free workshop to get started shifting these effectively, NOW.

LS x

You Can’t Be Authentic While Working Hard AGAINST The Toxic Religious & Masculine Conditioning Your Grew Up With

Some of you are working so hard AGAINST the toxic religious & masculine conditioning you grew up with around AUTHORITY that it’s limiting your potential now

.. it’s directly impacting your ability to show up now, as a female leader in HEALTHY authority & voice in your mission.

I GET IT. I grew up with it. I married it. I bound myself to communities with it.

(And then I divorced it, untangled myself from it, deconditioned it and now I work with others to do the same)

We always overcompensate for any area of trauma and conditioning we haven’t released/rewired.

It’s hard to show up powerfully in an area you felt powerless.

It’s hard to show up authentically in an area you hated.

It’s hard not to swing to the opposite end of the pendulum when you haven’t fully untangled, deconditioned & rewired it.

If you grew up in controlling religious environments or controlling family, or particularly narcissistic/controlling father..

And you are an entrepreneurial woman now who is ready for her unapologetic era (but in a healthy way that supports her wellbeing and authentic honest faith) this post is for you.

I see SO MUCH MORE for you than to still be bound (for whenever we are against our past, we are still bound by it)

I see your authentic self.. under the layers of fighting against. Under the layers of your inner Good Christian Girl who is still there (otherwise you wouldn’t need to fight so hard against it)..

And I can lead you to freedom on the other side –

Free to be you

Free to use your voice

Free to be your weird, quirky self

Free to create the highest level of impact you were born for

This is a part of the work – seeing that working so hard against it is also limiting you, desiring freedom and doing the deep work to cut the chains so that the generations that come behind you are also liberated to truth and authenticity vs living in reaction.

This is the “work” that we do in my world (that I’ve been told is FUN!).

Click here to join my next free workshop to untangle and embrace your freedom!

LS x

“I’m Going To Be The Very Thing You Didn’t Want Me To Be” Is Not Being Unapologetically YOU.

“I’m going to be the very thing you didn’t want me to be” is not being unapologetically you, it’s a trauma response.

(Eg. You grew up with religious parents who encouraged Good Christian Girl conditioning)

And now you understandably push back on all things religious Christianity.. even if a part of you feels disconnected and maybe even kind of misses aspects

The way you push back (fight) against who they tried to mould you into (eg. The Good Christian Girl Archetype) determines how much of your true self you actually get to claim back so you are free to be you.

The truly empowered woman doesn’t try to fit or try not to fit a label.

She just, is.

I can guide you into this freedom when you are finally ready to meet the REAL her.

Claim your free seat at my next workshop to untangle from it here.

Always seeing you in your magic,

LS x

God Didn’t Design You To Be A ‘Good Christian Girl’.

God never desired you to be a facade, a shell of yourself, or a Good Christian Girl who could only comply, dim herself and her voice down and fit the mould of who “they” desired her to be.

For the female entrepreneur; this facet of religious upbringing – the Good Christian Girl facade that you may have been unintentionally conditioned to be – is religious trauma.

This is probably why you feel burnt out

Why being your authentic self in your life and business feels “wrong”

Why you dim your sparkle down when you know you are born to shine bright

Why you silence your voice sometimes (and kick yourself later for it)

And why it may feel hard to be honest with God, having an honest faith without the perfectionism and trying to keep a mask in place.

I am not going to minimise it, because it’s incredibly toxic.

But if you are a high-achieving action-taking business-owner type, you need to reclaim your FOCUS..

.. we need to decondition and rewire this so that you are no longer impacted by something in the past

so you no longer burn yourself out trying to be a Good Christian Girl (subconsciously) – being nice to everyone
so you no longer make misaligned decisions
so you no longer feel boxed-in to a certain niche / offer / message
so you no longer pretzel yourself to fit the approval and expectations of others
so you are focused, lit up and in your own lane loving life!
so you are FREE TO BE YOU, with God.

You are not far away from your authentic self. She is already within you! She is already slamming on the brakes and trying to spin you in a new direction..

The real question is – are you finally ready to get her the CLARITY and internal shifts she needs to have her mind blown and feel LIT UP again?!

The deep is calling you! Let’s gooooo

LS x

This Is The Kind Of Community That Christian & Former Christian Women Need To Be More Authentic

Often for decades, former ‘Good Christian Girls’ have been surrounded by women absorbing the same conditioning and teachings as them:

that their needs and desire don’t matter
that their value is in constantly serving others
that they need to receive the approval of the community
that they should appear to be compliant, appeasing and nice to everyone
that it’s mean/unkind to have boundaries
that it’s wrong to shine bright or draw any attention to yourself
.. and so much more.

This creates whole communities of women who believe their conditioning and misaligned behaviour is normal.

Women who –

have conditioned themselves to stuff down what they really think or feel
silently struggle with burnout and anxiety.
even normalise things like staying in the confines of a man-made idealised persona like the ‘Good Christian Girl’ – being someone you’re not just to feel belonging and acceptance.

Well, not in my world!

In my world we are honest and authentic

We use our voices

Challenge thinking without ego

We dig deeper into who we really are

We own our wants and needs

We shine bright, unapologetically!

We love on each other

We listen without judgement

We own our boundaries

We have fun!!!!

We explode our ceilings.

We cheer each other on.

And we do it together.

This can be you and me on a call, workshopping your next big aligned business move TOMORROW.

But I mean, keep dimming yourself down if you want 😉

Click here to join my next free workshop to break FREE from the toxicity of the ‘Good Christian Girl’ Archetype, to instead be unapologetically and authentically YOU – co-creating wild impact with God.

LS x

What Is Wrong With Being A Good Christian Girl?

I’ve been asked this alot in comments on my posts on social media, and I understand the mindset.

It’s coming from people who are where I used to be. I grew up in conservative “religious” Christianity, I had absorbed much of the teaching from a young age in my family and church environments, and then in subsequent church environments.

What I didn’t realise was that some of what I had absorbed was actually man-made teaching, and not from the God who sees women, loves women and values women.

I found it challenging to set boundaries, own and use my God-given voice, anchor in my worth; and was also wrestling with alot of burnout, anxiety, dimming myself down, people-pleasing, workaholism, perfectionism (I could go on..).

And when I began to dig deep into healing all of these with God, I uncovered that I had swallowed the poison of this archetype without realising it was toxic for me, and for the women around me. I discovered it was not only anti-biblical, it was actually anti-God.

With that being said – let’s dive a little deeper.

What Is The Good Christian Girl Archetype™, & What Is Wrong With Being A Good Christian Girl?

The Good Christian Girl Archetype™ is a trauma response to being taught that God values girls/women only when they conform to a narrow, man-made mould. Conditioned to be quiet, compliant, and self-sacrificing, she learns to suppress her voice and needs to avoid being seen as selfish or rebellious.

Her value becomes tied to serving others, people-pleasing & meeting impossible standards of perfection, leaving no room for her imperfection, needs, desires or her as a person.

As a result, grown women are infantalised, twisting themselves into disempowered versions of who God made them to be, stripped of God-given worth & protective mechanisms like their voice and intuition, landing them into toxic and sometimes dangerous situations.

As an adult she craves authenticity and the courage to lead her life unapologetically, but her conditioning keeps her in a cycle of self-abandonment and a fear that stepping into her full self would make her unworthy of love or acceptance.

If you’re reading this thinking – holy Moses this is actually really relatable, pin-points the things I’ve wrestled or am wrestling with, and I know it’s placing a ceiling on my full God-given potential that I am born to expand in this lifetime.. I have an invitation for you –

To untangle from The Good Christian Girl Identity™ so you can be unapologetically and authentically YOU in your life, faith or business, join my next free workshop on how to untangle from her here.

LS x

Protecting Yourself From The Toxicity In Your Religious Past

< Go from 0-1000mph instead of expressing hurt, anger, frustration or disappointment in healthy ways, you explode (then feel freaking guilty afterwards)?

< Frustrated by your religious up-bringing and the limitations it brings?

< Feel misunderstood often, and like your voice doesn’t carry much authority (unless you’re angry or exploding)?

< Trying hard NOT to be the Good Christian Girl you were brought up to be?

I see you, there’s nothing wrong with you – it’s likely you’re unknowingly caught in the Religious Rebel Archetype™.

The Religious Rebel Archetype™ is an understandable reaction to Good Christian Girl conditioning.

It’s understandable because GCG conditioning basically teaches girls to be powerless, to rely on men to protect them, to abandon themselves, and to silence their voices and intuition.

Some of these are our most powerful God-given protectors given as gifts to women – especially our voices and intuition!

And I’m sure, like me, you ended up in toxic, abusive, dangerous or unhealthy situations as a result. So you had to protect yourself..

Pushing back against all things related to your religious up-bringing..

But the thing is, the way that we protect ourselves is not always a long-term healthy solution for us to live in peace, have great relationships with ourselves and others and to receive our desires..

Sometimes our protective mechanisms block the very things we say we want, burning us out, leaving us feeling guilty with a loud inner critic that gives us a load of anxiety.

I bring you good news! Knowing that the Religious Rebel Archetype™ is actually a REACTION to the Good Christian Girl Archetype is the key here!

The problem isn’t your desire to push back against something toxic – no no no – the problem is the original Good Christian Girl conditioning. She’s still active and you haven’t properly untangled from her as an identity deep within your subconscious.

And I bring you better news! I’m going to show you ALL THE THING in my next free workshop to untangle it all & be unapologetically YOU here.

LS x

There Are Only 2 Things A Girl/Woman Can Be In Many Conservative Christian Spheres (Why You Dim Yourself Down):

In many conservative religious circles, there are only 2 things a woman can be (why you dim yourself & your voice down):

In my deep observation, my own spiritual awakening and evolution journey and working with high achieving clients, I accidentally uncovered a dichotomy (two opposing ideas) in many religious circles.

And it’s something that, until this moment, I bet you actually deep down KNEW existed, but had struggled to put your finger on, or put words to. It’s this:

In most religious Christian circles, girls and women can only be ONE of two things –

The Good Christian Girl / Good Christian Woman

The Rebellious Woman / Harlot / Strong Independent Career Woman

Have you noticed this?

If you don’t fit the mold, toe the line, dim down your voice and opinions.. if you don’t PERFECTLY fit into the archetype of the Good Christian Girl, you are IMMEDIATELY labelled as the other.

And so develops this unnameable subconscious fear with deep (often unconscious) dialogue going a little something like this:

“I don’t want people to think I’m rebellious, or selfish, or immoral, or too independent.. so I’ll dim myself down”

The thing is, as women when we get to our 30s, 40s and beyond we get to a point where we are severely burnt out and literally CANNOT operate in this dichotomy – this pattern of self-abandonment and fear any longer..

But it’s like – how do we untangle from it all to be unapologetically ourselves, without becoming someone we’re not, but also not becoming something we fear (like being labelled rebellious)?

While ever we don’t feel safe to just BE, the full expression of authenticity cannot exist.

Join my next free workshop to begin untangling it all & be unapologetically YOU!

Always seeing the magic in you,
LS x

How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Exploding In Anger

I used to go from 0 (Nice Christian Girl/Good Girl—compliant and quiet) to 1000 mph (psycho angry Leah) before exploding. Now I stand up for myself instead.. you can too.

I would bottle it up for a longgg time before the inevitable eruption happened because I literally couldn’t hold it in any longer.

Instead of using my voice, I would bite my tongue, be nice, take it and take it, try to be forgiving, try to show grace, try to be like Jesus, pray about it, try to reframe how I thought about it, avoid situations and people that would trigger it…

All of which required a lot of maintenance and energy. All of which actually ENABLED others to treat me however they liked (but that’s probably a post for another day).

The problem was this:
I didn’t know HOW to use my voice appropriately, and because I didn’t know how, when I was triggered I would explode—which led to me not trusting my voice fully.

The problem was NOT the fact that I would explode, or that I didn’t trust my voice…

It was that I had never been shown how to properly use my voice to stand up for myself, voice my opinions, and stand for what really mattered to me in a healthy, balanced, regulated way (without becoming someone I wasn’t, or ruining all the relationships around me); AND I had received conditioning I that told me that being a nice, silent, Good Christian Girl was what God (and men) wanted from me.

You don’t need another self-help book or a surface-level communication workshop.

You don’t need more guilt-laden advice to “be like Jesus” while ignoring the power and authority He’s given you.

Without appropriate adult female models, we are left in our protective mechanisms, sometimes floundering, trying to work it out ourselves.

You can feel when it’s not working. You try harder, bottle it up longer, and hope the next time will be different… but it’s not.

This cycle of silence, eruption, and guilt takes a toll. It robs you of your peace, your confidence, and the ability to trust yourself. It impacts your relationships, your work, and even your faith.

But it doesn’t have to stay this way.

You don’t need to keep carrying this weight. What you need is to unlearn the toxic beliefs that keep you silent and reclaim your voice in a way that feels powerful, regulated, and authentic.

That’s exactly what we do in my Free To Be You Mastermind.

This isn’t just about learning to “speak up.” It’s about uncovering the version of you that’s silenced herself for far too long—the bold, unapologetic, aligned woman you were always meant to be.

Imagine using your voice with clarity and conviction, standing firm for what matters most to you, and showing up powerfully (and REGULATED) in communication in your relationships and work without fear or guilt.

You can learn to trust your voice, even if you never have before. You can use your voice to stand for what matters most without burning bridges—or yourself out.

Join my next free workshop to take your first step: Workshop Link.

Or PM me to claim your seat in the Free To Be You Mastermind—only a few positions left this year.

Always seeing the magic in you,
LS x

How To Stop Dimming Yourself Down & Silencing Your Voice.

You’re a powerhouse—a high-achieving, visionary businesswoman. So why do you still find yourself dimming your light or biting your tongue in rooms where you should be fully seen and heard?

You want to…

Be fully and unapologetically yourself.
Own & use your voice to lead with authority.
Show up authentically in your relationships and your life.

Because your role demands it. You need to use your voice to lead your team, command respect, and bring your vision to life. You need your voice to stand out online as the authority you are. You need the freedom to say NO to what doesn’t align with your values and goals.

And yet, there’s a hesitation.

Here’s what might really be going on:

SHIFT #1: There’s nothing wrong with you! It’s past conditioning.

The urge to hold back or silence yourself didn’t come from nowhere. It’s conditioning—layers of expectations, rules, and beliefs from family, society, and even faith. None of this was your choice, and it’s not an indication of your value or strength.

This isn’t a flaw—it’s a past pattern. And I’m here to guide you to break free.

SHIFT #2: Trying to change this consciously is the hard way.

This conditioning is deeply rooted in your subconscious mind. It’s like a program running quietly in the background, reinforcing this habit of staying quiet or playing small.

But the good news? You don’t need to force it, nor do you need hypnotherapy. You need to access and befriend the parts of yourself that are still carrying these old beliefs. They are ready to release when you’re ready to meet them.

SHIFT #3: “If I am unapologetically myself, I will lose people.”

Yes, there’s a chance that stepping into your fullest self may disrupt certain relationships. But here’s the truth: you’ll be okay, no matter what. This is where your personal power lies.

When you no longer need approval or validation from others—when you feel truly seen, known, and loved by God—your value becomes rooted in Him. You’re free from the need to pretzel yourself to be who others expect you to be.

You can stand firmly as you are, even when others have their opinions or feelings. None of that has anything to do with you.

SHIFT #4: Do it for the women who come after you.

Imagine your daughters or younger women in your sphere. Imagine the power they’d inherit from watching you speak, live, and lead unapologetically. Liberate them by liberating yourself.

Your voice is powerful. You can be the one to break generational cycles of silence and shrinkage. You can free generations of women to speak their truth, to own their space, and to live fully in the light.

Ready to finally step into the full strength of your voice and purpose?

Click the link to join the Free To Be You Mastermind—where you’ll learn to break through these patterns, claim your voice, and lead the way you were always meant to.

LS x