The World Doesn’t Need More Good Christian Girls

The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs unleashed women like Esther

Who despite her history as a girl trafficked into sexual slavery to the King

She owned who she was as Queen

And used her voice and position to confront the king

She spoke the truth

Even in the face of fear

Even in the face of death

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The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs more brave women like Rahab

Who despite her history

Went against her culture and city

And used her voice

Her home and her resources

To hide spies for Team God

And believed God would come through

In the face of fear

In the face of threat

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The world doesn’t need more Good Christian Girls

The world needs more unleashed women like Mary Magdalene

Who despite her history of having seven demons

Was a devoted follower of Jesus

Not caring what others thought of her

She embraced her new transformed identity

And used her position to help fund Jesus’ ministry

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We don’t need more Good Christian Girls who hide their emotions

We need unleashed open-hearted women

Like the woman who washed Jesus feet with her tears

The text describes her as a woman who had lived a sinful life #relatable

Who boldly walked into the house of a Pharisee – a religious teacher – while they were dining

Whose heart was so open that she stood by Jesus

Overwhelmed with what – awe? Gratitude? Love?

She let her tears fall to his feet

Then knelt and wiped his feet with her hair

In front of the eyes of judgmental religious men

She no doubt felt overwhelming levels of shame

As they pointed out what she had done

However she deeply knew the immeasurable value of the man sitting in front of her

She no doubt felt love and compassion radiating from him

As she poured out extravagantly expensive perfume

And kissed his feet

Feet soon to be pierced for her

Not caring what the religious leaders thought of her

She vulnerably and open-heartedly displayed her affection for Him.

(I wonder should this occur in modern churches how she would be judged for how inappropriate, overly emotional and sensual she was being)

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No.

We don’t need more good Christian girls

Stuffing down their voices

Avoiding leadership

Pretending silence is godliness

And niceness is kindness

Holding everything together with a perfect facade

Avoiding their identity as Daughter of The King

We need women transformed by the truth

Being led by God

Powerfully speaking up

Vulnerably and open-heartedly facing the world

Bravely stepping into purpose

Without caring what others may think of them

It’s costly and frustrating to keep the good Christian girl facade going when you know you were born for more

When you feel him calling you into more for him

If you are finally ready to make the transition from Good Christian Girl to unleashed God-led CEO..

Not caring what anyone thinks of you except God himself

LS x

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You Left & Deconstructed Toxic Christianity – So Why Do You Still Abandon Yourself?

You thought you could leave “her” behind – your inner Good Christian Girl – the version of you you used to be – the version you’ve outgrown.. 

And you have tried. Maybe you left the church you grew up in, changed denominations, found new people.. maybe even deconstructed your faith.. 

But somehow – you’re not completely free of the identity you inherited, the identity that never fit, that required your constant compliance, silence, shrinking and pretzelling just to receive an ounce of belonging, power, acceptance, or even love.

And maybe you even see that she – this part of you that still sometimes makes an appearance – is at odds with the authentic, unapologetic leader you are now.. leading to alot of frustration.

You see – the Good Christian Girl Identity doesn’t just STAY in the past – she’s here with you right now, in your business when you silence yourself instead of owning who you are and what you do, she’s in your brand when you keep to the mould of what you “should” do vs fully owning who you ARE, and she’s in your energy when you step into PROVING ENERGY, chasing misaligned goals and clients – instead of bringing your work into alignment that would leave you energised and excited. 

The thing is though, the Good Christian Girl Identity isn’t about knowledge – we can KNOW in our minds that women are just as significant as men, and deserve a voice – but we still censor ourselves in moments we want to take a stand – particularly as female leaders.

The Good Christian Girl is not about knowledge – she has been conditioned through teachings, through osmosis, through time. Over and over again she has been affirmed for being small, compliant, quiet and fitting a certain mould..

This is where her safety comes from. And so we cannot simply just work harder to change her – we must address the roots of the pattern where the identity actually lives – in your body and subconscious mind.

And so trying to deconstruct your beliefs.

Giving yourself “permission”

Working hard to change your behaviour

Finding community that “understands”

Is not going to work. And over the last 14+ years I’ve been obsessively studying what does. 

Click here to download your free “GUIDE” and I’ll send you a copy of The Hidden Psychology of The Good Christian Girl Identity guide + playbook where I help you identify your fastest path towards your most unapologetic, wildly impactful YOU.

LS x

The Map To Your Freedom: The Spiritually Wealthy™ Master Map

I’m about to hand you the exact process you needed to break free from your Good Christian Girl Identity to become The Spiritually Wealthy Woman – the hyper achieving woman who is fully herself, walking closely with God and co-creating your impactful life’s work..

If you’re a hyper-achieving woman who grew up as a ‘Good Christian Girl’ – you don’t need anyone to give you PERMISSION to be who you already know you are: The Spiritually Wealthy CEO.

You already gave yourself permission.. you just keep hitting ceilings around your voice, vibrance, authority, business and calling – ceilings that, if they were eradicated in the next 8 weeks+, you would be UNSTOPPABLE – with God, without losing yourself.

This is the map to your freedom.

INTRODUCING

The Spiritually Wealthy Identity Master Map™

The Spiritually Wealthy™ Master Map - by Leah Samara SAMARA® © SAMARA® 2025-2026

Drawn on intellectual property I painstakingly yet lovingly created between 2021-2026, and further developed in its current form in 2025, The Master Map guides you – as a hyper-achieving woman born for more – to identify:

– “Where” you are in your ground-up identity evolution,
– What your next focus area is to become the woman who creates soul-aligned impact with God,
– What is possible for you when you follow The Spiritually Wealthy Identity™ methodology and
– Which of the SAMARA® or The Golden Goose® (both of Leah’s brands) suite of offers would be your most potent match to continue upgrading you to the next stage – this is called “The Ecosystem” below.

This is a trademark identity recalibration process lovingly-crafted over Leah’s 17+ years of expertise as a high-level strategist to high achievers across the globe.

Click here to explore the map – and your liberating next steps – in full.

LS x

The Hidden Psychology Of The Good Christian Girl Identity™

If you’re a hyper-achieving woman who grew up as a ‘Good Christian Girl’ and you keep hitting ceilings around your voice, vibrance, authority, business and calling – ceilings that, if they were eradicated in the next 90 days, you would be UNSTOPPABLE..

You don’t need anyone to give you PERMISSION to be who you already know you are, you already gave your damn self permission.

You don’t need more affirmations and mindset work that waste your time and give you little to show for it (other than alot of self blame and feeling not enough).

You don’t need to just “feel understood” –

Or “be less alone” in a community of “like minded” women who bond over their wounds and trauma and never grow.

You know your Good Christian Girl noise runs deeper than all of that – and you’re here for deep and thorough results this time.

Here’s what you actually need:

To deeply understand the hidden psychology of the Good Christian Girl Identity™.

Because until you understand just how DEEP this thing runs? You’ll be trying every surface level solution wondering why it’s not budging, and wondering if maybe there is something wrong with you.

I’m here to tell you – there is NOTHING wrong with you – you just need to understand her, and be handed the right strategies to decondition from the religious, familial and cultural conditioning you inherited – to release what is past, unlock your unapologetic era and forge your own path..

You were not born to settle, to lose yourself, to scale from misalignment and burnout.

You are highly resilient, brilliant and born to co-create wild levels of impact with God himself.

And it’s time to shine ✨

Click here to downloaod your free copy of my pro field guide & playbook now.

It’s packed with 16+ years in the arena with high-achieving professionals, along with 6+ years of studying and working with former Good Christian Girls.

This is deep work, and I’m invested in handing you the soul-nourishing short cuts to your freedom.

LS x

Break Free From The Good Christian Girl Identity™

Breaking free from The Good Christian Girl Identity™ requires mastery of the whole ecosystem –

Theology, psychology/trauma, identity, energetics, leadership, and years of learning to walk in Holy Spirit-led faith and surrender.

.. and, particularly for the hyper-achieving women who are ready to unapologetically co-create extraordinary impact – business and brand strategy – brand strategy is to package and position you and your work after this transformation with clear aligned messaging to your unique niche.

This is why your pastor, psychologist, business coach, sales coach, relationship coach, nor random online content creator speaking about “good girl” anything are not, nor will ever be – enough for you in this arena.

You’ve outgrown them all and are ready for your next level of breakthrough, with a guide experienced at navigating the entire elaborate ecosystem.

The depth always and only speaks to those destined for the extraordinary. The depth is my specialty.

LS x

How To Own Your Personal Sovereignty (Despite Controlling Religious Men)

Recently I was reminded how I reclaimed my voice and sovereignty from unhealthy and controlling religious men.

A male family member who had abandoned me after I wouldn’t obey/submit to him reached out to me. No apology just expectation of access. It was graciously denied.

I won’t go into the whole story, but wanted to share this:

I come from a religious Christian family where most of the men seem to believe they have authority over me simply because I’m a woman. 

Where my and the other females in my family had a role. That role was to always “respect” and “obey” and “submit” to them..

Regardless of whether they deserved it

Regardless of how I felt about it

Regardless of their treatment of me.

But because God supposedly said so.

Where not doing so came with consequences: 

Male adult tantrums

The silent treatment (for weeks on end while they were still being served of course)

Abandonment

Religious abuse

Estrangement – some decided by me, some not.

I distinctly felt this kick into a higher gear after my divorce over a decade ago..

After I stood up to and left ex (who was also obsessed with my “submission” to him)

After I drew a line in the sand

After I began finding myself, voice and sovereignty.

Where the unspoken rule is that I supposedly left my ex-husband’s authority and returned to theirs (for a sinful woman like Eve who was easily deceived surely needs the “covering” of man to navigate the world lol).

.. which clashed more with newly-divorced adult Leah who was finding her sovereignty more than Little Good Christian Girl Leah ever did.

Yet despite all this.. 

Through my spiritual awakening with and in Jesus – freedom upon freedom came:

I found my peace, my voice, my sanity, my Spiritual Wealth™. 

A cup so full, breadcrumbs no longer felt like a banquet 

Control no longer felt normal 

And low effort no longer an event I felt obligated to attend.

What came was a deep sense of my significance – that despite everything I was conditioned to believe about myself as a person and particularly a woman, that I was and am so deeply valued by and delighted in by God himself ..

Meaning I was so satisfied and fulfilled that, as I allowed God access to the different parts of my heart, I stopped chasing what was misaligned, what wasn’t good for me, who wasn’t good for me. 

A gained the space, freedom, courage to be my authentic self, without constantly performing a persona to be approved of 

I gained CLARITY and direction around what was and was not for me 

A voice so strong I no longer go unheard – nor do I stay in spaces who refuse me a voice at the table..

And so much more. 

Im FREE to no longer perform for family

Sweeping things under the rug and pretending it’s all fine

Swallowing family dysfunction

Enabling others in their dysfunction 

I know I’m likely to be seen as rebellious, difficult, unforgiving and selfish for these.

And I honestly just don’t care anymore – not in a faux powerful way, but in a neutral “meh” kind of way

Because one the biggest gifts this has all given me is freedom from what they, my family and others, think of me. 

AND BY A GENUINE MIRACLE – instead of becoming a bitter woman, I somehow found joy, authenticity, communion and balance instead. 

Not hating men and tarring them all with the “all men are bad” brush, but holding certain men accountable.

Not blaming God for the actions of men, but holding certain men accountable. 

I’m so proud of the sovereign woman I am today. 

Not shrinking back

Silencing myself

Making myself small 

Not bowing to the darkness in my bloodline 

Owning my voice

Protecting my peace from the endless toxic loops of people who never change.

And for those of you who need to hear it:

There does come a time when estrangement is holy. 

Where distance is actually protection, God’s protection.

Where distraction is from darkness.

Where the past is a thief of identity

Where the darkness flowing from those called “family” should be silenced (as Jesus did).

God will use their abandonment and neglect of you for YOUR good, I promise – 

It’s time to step into your full sovereignty and be who you were born to be – without their approval.

LS x

Break Free From Mother Wounds (Sovereignty, The Holy Spirit & Breaking Generational Curses)

As former Good Christian Girls, it’s often at the feet of our mothers where we learned our first embodied lessons of self-abandonment disguised under the label of holiness.

Where we first learned to silence both ourselves and our inner knowing; as if something were deeply wrong with both feminine intuition and voice.

Where we learned to suppress our needs and desires; as if experiencing joy or pleasure itself somehow made us “bad” and “selfish”.

Where we first learned our value as women was in our serving and serving to the point of burnout; or that we were less valuable than men purely because of our gender.

These were never lessons we were sat down and taught in the same way that we learned the alphabet, but it are lessons absorbed, while sitting at the feet of our mothers, like the dutiful Good Christian Girls we were conditioned to be.

Absorbed in such a way that, when we move outside of the constraints of these “lessons”, that our nervous systems become dysregulated.. and we experience upper limits in life today.

As adults it can feel as if questioning this, bringing it up and initiating any kind of accountability is bringing women down or “mother blaming” women for the failures and impacts of a patriarchal society.

This isn’t about mother blaming. It’s worth noting that as a generation we have access to so much more freedom, support and resources than our mothers, grandmothers and generations before them ever did and this is worthy of reflection..

AND – While they may have done the best they could, there are very real impacts leading from not ONLY their lack of freedom, but their choices bleeding into our lives today.

This doesn’t mean we hate our mothers but it can create a complex relationship with both ourselves and our mothers that resurfaces annually on Mother’s Day..

And this is something to be grieved and healed.

But alongside the grieving – a complex walk I have personally taken –

The most beautiful thing I’ve experienced along this journey of healing and awakening is this:

I didn’t need to have the perfect childhood

The perfect mother

The perfect upbringing and mothering

In order to be nourished, heard, comforted and supported NOW..

Or in order to break free of the religious and familial conditioning that leads to automatic self silencing, suppression, stifling and self abandonment now.

The most beautiful thing is that God himself has stepped into not just my past wounds –

But into my world now, not just as perfect father healing my past, guiding me to truth, sovereignty, and secure attachment and so much more – but also in the role of mother.

This was not something I was expecting at all, as I grew up with the SCRIPTURE IS CLEAR crowd, God is always a man..

And it’s not even about the gender of God.

But one day was speaking to God while doing some inner work..

And was saying to him – “God I feel so healed from my father wounds. I feel so much more secure and protected and safe. And I deeply feel that YOU are now my actual Father which has been so healing and nourishing.. but I don’t feel that way about my mother wounds.”

“I sense that you are strong and protective as my Father, but when it comes to doing the inner work around my mother wounds, sometimes I just want a mother to hold me, to comfort me.”

And this was when he revealed to me that, if I allowed, the Holy Spirit has this same role (of “mother”) in my life and it blew my mind. That God in his multi faceted nature always provides exactly what I need.

The comfort

Nourishment

Feeling heard

Being supported

Without the dysfunction or strings that often come with it is available to me.

That day I learned at a deeper level a lesson I want to share with you today; that He himself is my comfort.

He is the perfect nurturing, consistent comfort and constant source of nourishment and he is here for me – and you.

“As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.” Isaiah 66:13

God himself has become the foundation on which I am being rebuilt into the Spiritually Wealthy Woman God designed me to be – not from people-pleasing, performance or self abandonment – but from a deep resurrection from the generational toxicity and religious dysfunction handed down to me that only brought death to my life.

And that simple thing – that the Holy Spirit IS my mother, whispering life and comfort into places I previously believed unreachable, life into my conditioned perceived limits and awakening into my most powerful, sovereign, Spiritual Wealthy future

Co-creating with God in all his facets and quirks and qualities

To do my life’s work, and be the woman who owns her voice, her message and writing this today

Has been so healing and life changing.

So today my challenge for you today is this –

Yes today may be challenging and complex but you are not that little Good Christian Girl anymore who shrinks back and silences..

You are no longer a powerless little girl..

You are sovereign, strong and incredible woman destined to release incredible legacy and work into the world.

So here’s the challenge:

Invite THE Holy Spirit (be very clear you only want to speak to The Holy Spirit) about any lack that is surfacing for you today, whether that’s a feeling of current lack in your relationship with your mother, past lack from what you felt you didn’t receive or the future impacts you project from it..

And allow the resurrection and the LIFE to guide you into wholeness in those places so that you can live – not out of generational curses, but from generational life and legacy.

LS x

Myth: “You just need to use your voice”

I had to share this with you, as I’m seeing some coaches talk about “using your voice” online as it seems to be the new popular thing to claim as your niche –

.. but their clients will wonder why their results don’t last because their work is not deep enough..

And as someone who has been working with hyper-achieving leading ladies for 16+ years in this space – I want to share with you why.

One of the biggest myths female visionaries, entrepreneurs & leaders who want to shed good girl conditioning & unlock more of their voice are told:

“You just need to use your voice”..

This is why this kind of teaching does not work:

1.You need to use your voice from your deepest, most honest level of authenticity..

(or you’ll simply be louder, but still speaking from religious/familial/societal conditioning instead of The Authentic YOU)

2.Your voice needs to be backed by unapologetic personal sovereignty..

(or despite your voice being louder, and even your words will be different – your energy will still be screaming “Good Girl”)

3.Your voice needs to be amplified by a clear message for your revolution..

(or you’ll just become more noise, lost in an already crowded online space)

4. You voice needs to be backed by unshakeable faith – deeply knowing you are protected & sustained by God himself.

(or you won’t be able to take a stand for the things that matter and stay on-purpose, while others disagree or even throw hate your way and hold the energy of being fully yourself)

This is The Recalibration Experience.

Recalibrate your faith, your identity, voice & magic, your message & brand, and your revolution so everything you touch is aligned clean, focused, magnetic. This isn’t a micro step — it’s a strategic reset that changes the trajectory of everything that comes next.

  • Immediate clarity: Walk away with a reset in faith, identity, and message that shows you — with certainty — that you’re not “too far gone,” “too late,” or “too much.”
  • Unlock of possibility: Feel the magnetic shift of moving from your God-led, undimmable self. The results? Clean, precise, powerful energy behind every move.
  • The beginning: You’ll leave knowing — in your bones — that the woman you’ve dreamt of being isn’t a fantasy. She’s already here, only REFINEMENTS away from her next level and vision!

These are the first steps of your most potent realignment in real time, custom-designed to bring freedom, clarity and potency to your world and brand!

Backed by my proven 4-part framework developed from founding multiple premium brands and working with hyper-achieving entrepreneurial women to fully unleash themselves & their voices for over 16+ years.

LS x

Dear Erika Kirk.

I wrote this post on Facebook this week and felt to share it with you..

This is written entrepreneurial woman to entrepreneurial woman. I have worked in this space for over a decade and watch as the same Good Girl/Good Christian Girl patterns surface again and again..

This is not as a political piece. It’s about the masks we wear, the way we believe we have to push through and the deep rest from the pressures of the world – the weight of obligation and expectation – that’s available to every one of us.

Enjoy x

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This is how I would guide Erika Kirk right now, as a Spiritual Guide & Leadership Mentor for hyper-achieving women, based on what I see:

(Please note: A normal client relationship is based on what I see + potent questions to uncover truth + what I see in the answers. This analysis is only based on what I see so is understandably limited, and making some assumptions).

 I just finished watching your speech last night 

And phewww absolutely incredible that you had the strength to stand up and do that. I know so many are standing in awe of you right now.. 

And I can see you did it for Charlie and his cause, and for God. But I also see the tremendous toll and cost on you.

 Your face that said you were anything but ready to forgive

 Your eyes that still hold tremendous and understandable levels of unprocessed anger 

Your body that cannot have had much time this week to rest, reset, process and grieve in between all of the obligations. 

Time to be human. 

Time to be a grieving wife. 

Time to break apart. 

And I also see a woman who, like I used to be, fully believes that she has to hold it all together right now for everyone else.. 

A woman who is so good at wearing that good Christian woman mask – and is celebrated for it:

To sacrifice all of her needs on the altar of obligation and “spreading the gospel”.

A woman carrying the weight of the salvation of the world along with the weight of her own grief while making challenging decisions, running companies, and being a mum to two children who just lost their daddy..

And I can only imagine how bone-deep your exhaustion must run. 

As the adrenaline wears off

And the admiration of the crowd dies down that was numbing over the heart wrenching loss and deep shock you experienced 

And the grief sets in..

I hope you’ll allow yourself time to be

With yourself

And with God

Without the heavy mask of being the perfect Christian wife and woman..

Without feeling like the salvation of the world is yours to carry (Because it’s not, and never was..)

Without worrying what others will think or how they will react to you taking what you need

And without the pressure to keep showing up as you have done this week. I hope you’ll find another way to honour Charlie’s legacy

That doesn’t require your complete self abandonment, your perfection, your performance 

Without obligation and guilt 

Where you find another way to cope other than the good Christian woman mask

Where you’ll not only be focused on giving love but that you will stop long enough to receive it, too

And where you’ll allow God to fully carry you, to surrender, release and allow his peace and rest to enter your realm.

If Charlie’s work was truly a move of and with God.. Then his legacy and the work will never fall apart

Because the source is still here.

And that source is holding space for you right now to fall apart 

The world will understand if we don’t see you for twelve months because you can’t get out of bed

The world will understand if you need to get daily therapy, curl up on your Pyjamas, hold your babies and weep.

And I’m sure Charlie, even if only for the way that that man looked at you with that grin and sparkle in his eyes, will understand your need to grieve the loss of him and all that you had together.

The only thing that matters right now in your world is the wellbeing of this beautiful woman 

Who has lost so much

So that she has the capacity to look after herself

And her two beautiful kids after such shock and loss.

 Jesus is saying

Come and sit by me

And let me carry you through this 

The rest of the world can wait. 

LS x

Dimming Your Own Light & Voice, & Playing Too Small?

It can be incredibly frustrating to know that you’re smart, sparkly and brilliant..

Yet find yourself dimming your OWN light, silencing your OWN voice and playing smaller than what you know damn-well you’re fully capable of.

This is the pattern that former “good girls” and “Good Christian Girls” come up against all the time, leaving them feeling frustrated, anxious and even burnt out.

Because they fight so hard AGAINST this conditioning and these patterns.. only to walk away spinning their wheels and feeling exhausted.

Lady – I HAVE FOUND AN EASIER WAY!!!

And it’s NOT about:

❌ working HARDER or consciously going against your conditioning, just “shutting your inner critic up and putting her in the trunk of your car” kinda vibes

❌ constantly regulating your nervous system through meditations, breath work, visualisation, yoga or even praying more

❌ taking a break/sabbatical or just “resting more”

❌ constantly tweaking/realigning your business or investing in a new marketing, business, sales or even mindset coach.

There IS a way to break-free from past conditioning that keeps you dimming down when you know you’re born to shine bright & serve your people at the highest level..

.. so that you can be fully, unapologetically and authentically yourself in your life and business (and maybe even in your faith)

.. without bending to cancel culture or the expectations of others!

And I’m going to share my simple, trauma-informed framework with you during my new free workshop:

How To Break FREE From The Good Christian Girl Identity To Be Unapologetically & Authentically YOU In Life, Faith & Business & Unlock Your Soul Aligned Impact, Fast.

(Without Burnout, your Inner Critic, or Religious Mindsets Dimming Your Vibe)

This workshop isn’t about adding more to your plate, burning your business down or changing who you are—it’s about uncovering and breaking FREE from the exact root of what’s slowing you down so you can scale your impact, break generational chains and do work that matters.

This is ONLY for the female coach, expert, leader or influencer who is highly driven and absolutely refuses to dim down her magic, vibrance and voice anymore!

If you’re ready to shine bright, live fully, and unlock your next-level impact – WITHOUT BURNOUT –

🤍 CLICK HERE TO SAVE YOUR SEAT NOW

Your most aligned life, business & dream clients are waiting and I can’t wait to guide you there!

LS x

PS. This will be one of your last chances to work with me closely in 2025. If you’ve been drawn to my work and want me to draw the UNTAPPED GOLD from you so you can tap into the potential running through your veins – don’t miss it.