Can we talk about Spiritual People-Pleasing?
Because people-pleasing itself is a pattern.
Self-abandonment is a pattern..
And it’s a pattern that many of us picked up at an early age – learning that we weren’t free to be fully ourselves, that we had to twist, and force and manoeuvre our way to receiving the love, belonging and acceptance we desperately craved.
And here’s the thing about Spiritual People-Pleasing:
Having a grounded, honest, authentic relationship with God has been one of the most nourishing and healing aspects of my spiritual awakening..
Especially after being so deeply enmeshed in religious communities and familial relationships where I felt that in order to receive love, connection, belonging, I had to abandon myself – by performing, being perfect, overworking, proving my value by serving, putting on a happy shiny facade, pretzeling myself to fit a certain “Good Christian Girl” or “good Christian Woman” or “perfect daughter” mould that was expected of me..
Often expected of me in the name of God, as if this behaviour was somehow what made God happy with me.
So when I circled back to relationship with God after going through a whole lot of life, trauma, challenge; it made so much sense that I’d be projecting this all onto God – anxious and anticipating what I thought he desires me to be.
Stepping back into old patterns of performing for him, pretzeling myself and essentially stepping into a FAWN RESPONSE with the king of the universe (yes it was as messed up as it sounds).
When all I really had to do was learn to be with him – securely attached – in the present moment.
With nothing to hide, nothing to prove and nothing to try to be, I can bathe in his goodness, deeply connect to his heart and find a peaceful sanctuary I’d only ever dreamed of.
It might sound complicated; but it’s actually quite simple. He loves you, wants relationship with you, and.. if you let him.. he’ll hold your hand and guide you into all healing and truth so that you are FREE to be fully you, with Him in the way that you are designed.
This is The Divine Reset.
