I used to go from 0 (Nice Christian Girl/Good Girl—compliant and quiet) to 1000 mph (psycho angry Leah) before exploding. Now I stand up for myself instead.. you can too.
I would bottle it up for a longgg time before the inevitable eruption happened because I literally couldn’t hold it in any longer.
Instead of using my voice, I would bite my tongue, be nice, take it and take it, try to be forgiving, try to show grace, try to be like Jesus, pray about it, try to reframe how I thought about it, avoid situations and people that would trigger it…
All of which required a lot of maintenance and energy. All of which actually ENABLED others to treat me however they liked (but that’s probably a post for another day).
The problem was this:
I didn’t know HOW to use my voice appropriately, and because I didn’t know how, when I was triggered I would explode—which led to me not trusting my voice fully.
The problem was NOT the fact that I would explode, or that I didn’t trust my voice…
It was that I had never been shown how to properly use my voice to stand up for myself, voice my opinions, and stand for what really mattered to me in a healthy, balanced, regulated way (without becoming someone I wasn’t, or ruining all the relationships around me); AND I had received conditioning I that told me that being a nice, silent, Good Christian Girl was what God (and men) wanted from me.
You don’t need another self-help book or a surface-level communication workshop.
You don’t need more guilt-laden advice to “be like Jesus” while ignoring the power and authority He’s given you.
Without appropriate adult female models, we are left in our protective mechanisms, sometimes floundering, trying to work it out ourselves.
You can feel when it’s not working. You try harder, bottle it up longer, and hope the next time will be different… but it’s not.
This cycle of silence, eruption, and guilt takes a toll. It robs you of your peace, your confidence, and the ability to trust yourself. It impacts your relationships, your work, and even your faith.
But it doesn’t have to stay this way.
You don’t need to keep carrying this weight. What you need is to unlearn the toxic beliefs that keep you silent and reclaim your voice in a way that feels powerful, regulated, and authentic.
That’s exactly what we do in my Free To Be You Mastermind.
This isn’t just about learning to “speak up.” It’s about uncovering the version of you that’s silenced herself for far too long—the bold, unapologetic, aligned woman you were always meant to be.
Imagine using your voice with clarity and conviction, standing firm for what matters most to you, and showing up powerfully (and REGULATED) in communication in your relationships and work without fear or guilt.
You can learn to trust your voice, even if you never have before. You can use your voice to stand for what matters most without burning bridges—or yourself out.
Join my next free workshop to take your first step: Workshop Link.
Or PM me to claim your seat in the Free To Be You Mastermind—only a few positions left this year.
Always seeing the magic in you,
LS x